I’m in a rut. A work rut.
I’m working as a management trainee at a medium sized research firm for nearly 1 year. I love what I am doing and I’m happy that I am pursuing my passion.
My supervisor said in my recent appraisal that I need to get along with my team mates otherwise I’ll never be promoted as a full fledge assistant manager in December. I did well in all aspect of my job and just this category I’m stuck with.
My supervisor said that it is very important for me to score well in people relations and management in order to prove that I can lead a team. In fact, he said that he would rather promote someone who gets along with everyone in his team than someone who is good with research analysis like myself.
There’s no quota in the promotion and there are only 3 of us in this management trainee program. So the position is mine if I can fulfill this area.
As far as I know, I’m the one who is good with numbers and research which is the core role of this job but the other two are really good with networking and being friendly with everyone. The thing is that I don’t really like to mingle around unless it is necessary and even then, I think it is frivolous itself.
I know I can do it if I set my heart to it but wouldn’t it be hypocrite of me, trying to suck up to people that I don’t care about, just to get ahead in the game?
Please help me to clear my head, Kally.
If others reading your blog can contribute some insight too, I’ll be grateful forever.
Thank you for reaching out to me.
Oh boy, you are in a work rut, alright. Honestly, have you given some thoughts that this job may not be suitable for you?
As you have mentioned, the core of the job is research analysis but your supervisor recognised that good people management skills are crucial in a leadership role in your firm. And like it or not, he is not wrong.
Mingling and networking are important steps in building relations and strengthening bonds in a team. A team is only as successful if they work together towards a common goal. If your teammates are to believe you as their leader, they need to feel your sincerity and put their trust in your guidance. Regular touch base sessions are required to gather feedback and accurately appraised someone of their performance. All these requires strong communication skills and high emotional intelligence.
To be a leader, there are many qualities you will need to have and one of them is inspiring your team. It is not about getting the work done but about getting your team getting the work done. Make sense?
One positive thing is that you have clearly identified your passion and that is with numbers, analysis and research. You seem to be more comfortable among figures and working alone.
Kudos in understanding your strengths.
Now what you need is not to force yourself to do something you don’t believe in, but to find a suitable role in your firm that will benefit from your strengths.
Unlike other skills that you can learn or master, people skills are something that needs to come from the heart wanting to be close with people. Forcing yourself to do so will only upset you.
Have another honest chat with your supervisor about this. Perhaps a more suited position like research analyst will benefit you in the long run.
Please let me know how it goes.
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