Guest Post: A LEADER

I stumbled upon a refreshing and inspiring piece by ADEOYE EMMANUEL. What he wrote was not only motivating, it is so real and resounding after my own heart. This is the kind of leader I want to be.

Have a read and let me know in the comments on what is leadership to you. If you love his article, please do visit his website for more wonderful works of his.


“Before you are a leader, success is all about growing yourself. When you become a leader, success is all about growing others.” – Jack Welch

Everyone of us wanted to “be somebody.”  Most of us wanted so deeply to inspire and move others, and to make a difference in a way that was unforgettable.

And that’s not a bad thing, you know.

But I want to tell you something. Until you know and discover yourself, you are lost. Once you find yourself, you can be found by others.

Who is a leader?

A leader is a teacher by default. A leader doesn’t try to be happy all the time, but embraces every aspect of his or her process, quietly shining the light for others to do the same.

A real leader doesn’t try to lead, but simply becomes the kind of person who others observe, learn from, and feel inspired to follow.

As I learn to live my life for me first, I begin to see how the choices I make affect more than just me. When I’m operating from a place of fear, worrying about how others perceive me, that limits the positive impact that I can have on the people around me.

This makes me realize how much opportunity there is to be of service in the world, just by living my own life honestly, authentically, and in alignment with my own heart.

It’s important for us to understand the power of learning about who we really are and what really matters to us. Then, we can align our choices with the morals and boundaries we set for ourselves from a place of self-love and self-respect.

What we contribute to the world through the choices that we make has a ripple effect. Your life affects mine, and vice versa.

Ultimately, the way we choose to interpret and perceive things will not only affect our own well-being, but it will affect the collective well-being. Therefore, we must lead by example. We must honor ourselves instead of judging ourselves.

Judgment keeps us stuck exactly where we are, and the world suffers as a result.

When we’re conscious of the simple, yet profound power that lies within our choices, we can create a better world every day and be powerful leaders just by shining our own light.

Ultimately it comes down to this: What kind of person do you want to be? Who does your heart know you already are? What type of world do you want to create for yourself and for the future generations? Do you believe you have the power to make a positive difference?

I believe we are all leaders inside. I believe that we all have something to teach one another. I believe that there is power in living authentically, in alignment with our own hearts and intuition.

Everything we do matters, whether we realize it in the moment or not.

This is not to say that we should expect ourselves to be perfect, because that’s not realistic, and we can always learn a lot from mistakes. However, I have to wonder what the world would be like if we all took responsibility for what we were contributing or not contributing to it.

I have to wonder how nice it would be to live in a world where everyone chose to learn from wisdom, rather than from fear.

What if everyone thought “What can I bring to the world?” instead of “What can I take from it?”

If we choose to awaken the leader within, then life is no longer about “us against them” or comparison, competition, and all these things that are rooted in separation and fear, which ultimately destroy us.

Instead, we can choose to quietly lead by example, from a place of wisdom, responsibility, integrity, trust, love, joy, and connection to each other.

As our inner leader awakens, we will know who and what we really are and what we contribute does make a difference. I am already somebody. You are already somebody.

Thank you for reading. Don’t forget to share your thoughts. It can only get better.


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58 Comments Add yours

  1. Growing others!🤠🔥

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    1. Kally says:

      I’m glad you enjoy this. Stay safe and smiling!

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      1. You as well , Kally!
        Are you on LinkedIn?

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        1. Kally says:

          Yes, I am! linkedin.com/in/kallytay

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          1. I sent you a request from my profile.

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          2. Kally says:

            I’ve got it! Thanks!

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          3. Absolutely! You have amazing articles, Kally!

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          4. Kally says:

            Awwww…. Thank you for making my day.

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  2. The post is amazing 🤩

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    1. Kally says:

      I’m glad you enjoy this. Stay safe and smiling!

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  3. his is a fabulous post, Kally. Thank you for sharing 😊

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    1. Kally says:

      I’m glad you enjoy this post. Have an awesome week, Sean!

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    1. Kally says:

      I’m glad you enjoy this post. Have an awesome week!

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  4. jenanita01 says:

    The whole world needs leaders like this, people who care deeply and are not afraid to share that with others.

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    1. Kally says:

      Absolutely, I’m with you. I’m glad you enjoy this post. Have an awesome week, Anita and Jaye!

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      1. jenanita01 says:

        We will do our best, Kally…

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  5. HensBlooms says:

    What a great perspective! These views make you a leader in my eyes 🙂 thank you for sharing

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    1. Kally says:

      I’m glad you enjoy this post. Have an awesome week!

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  6. A leader leads by service. 💯😊

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    1. Kally says:

      I’m glad you enjoy this post. Have an awesome week, Herry!

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  7. msw blog says:

    Great thought provoking post. It reminds me of a post I did a bit ago titled Leadership
    https://reallifeofanmsw.com/2019/12/19/leadership/

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    1. Kally says:

      Thank you so much! I’ll hop over there now.

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  8. equipsblog says:

    Wonderful post. A real leader is not some reality tv star who likes to shout “You’re fired!” as often and as loud as he can. He also doesn’t toy with or demean others for a cheap thrill or applause and laughter.

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    1. Kally says:

      I’m glad you love this post as much as I do. And yes, I know who you are refering to!

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      1. equipsblog says:

        I knew you were brilliant. Lol.

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        1. Kally says:

          As brilliant as you, my friend!

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          1. equipsblog says:

            Ah, shucks. Guess it takes one to know one.

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  9. Hi Kally,
    Such a great inspiration of leaders being a reflection of caring from the heart! ❤️ Cindy

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    1. Kally says:

      Thank you so much, Cindy. Hope you are doing well.

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      1. I’m great thanks Kally and I hope you are as well!

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  10. capost2k says:

    Hi, Kally.

    Enjoyed your selection for the guest blog, but just a couple comments.
    Most of it is very good advice, e.g. living honestly, authentically.
    However, I disagree with the author’s premise that we need to “learn to live for me first.” This is the assumption most people make every day; very few live with Father’s whisper in their ear being their first focus of the day. Further setting our “morals and boundaries – for ourselves from a place of self-love” is very dangerous. Again, what most people do.
    Scripture teaches “no one ever hated his own flesh.” (Eph 5:29) That is why Jesus could teach, “Love your neighbor as you love yourself.” He knew to assume we all love ourselves, and setting boundaries based on that self-love will exclude those whom He wants us to embrace.
    Beyond that though, his conclusion to lead by example and take responsibility for what we contribute or not is spot on with the Biblical call for each of us to prepare for an accounting someday when we meet our Creator.
    thanx for sharing this thoughtful blog! 🙂

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    1. Kally says:

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. I really appreciate that sharing your views will make us think deeper and perhaps do some self-reflect. Have a wonderful week.

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  11. Wonderful guest post. “A leader inspire others to be a leader”

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    1. Kally says:

      Absolutely. Great minds think alike!

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      1. Yes. Thanks for sharing!

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  12. Give And Share
    More Than
    Take
    And
    Hoard
    Indeed Lead
    Be Human For Real🙌😊

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    1. Kally says:

      Beautiful comment. Thank you, Katie.

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      1. Thank You Kally
        All My Pleasure😊

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  13. gifted50 says:

    BEautifully written and so motivational to become our better selves. I love the line that says “everything we do matters”.
    Thank you for sharing!

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    1. Kally says:

      Thank you so much for telling me you enjoy reading this! Stay well.

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      1. gifted50 says:

        Always so informative and a pleasure.

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  14. An effective leader is a compassionate listener. Listen first, show empathy, and be humble! The quote from Jack Welch is an excellent starting point about leadership at any level.

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    1. Kally says:

      Absolutely agree on that. Thank you very much! Have an awesome day.

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  15. mildredprincewelch says:

    “A *Leader* is a person with the power, wisdom, knowledge, and talent
    to teach others to become successful in their lives
    a type of success the leader possesses
    he/she lead others to pursue their goals
    and attain their goals.

    “Van Prince

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    1. Kally says:

      Wisdom from a leader himself. Thank you very much! Have an awesome day.

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      1. mildredprincewelch says:

        Compliments are content that take me by surprise and thank you forn a compliment wearing a crown!

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  16. This is so inspiring! Being a person who can lead themselves is the first step to being a leader to others.

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    1. Kally says:

      I think so too! Thank you so much! Have a wonderful weekend.

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  17. Believe in the ripple effect! Peace in your day!!

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    1. Kally says:

      Thank you, Denise and welcome to MiddleMe!

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    1. Kally says:

      Thank you. Have an amazing week!

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  18. nushhe says:

    Amazing post! Thanks Kelly for sharing 😍😍😍😍

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    1. Kally says:

      Thank you so much for brightening my day with your comment.

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