I stumbled upon a refreshing and inspiring piece by ADEOYE EMMANUEL. What he wrote was not only motivating, it is so real and resounding after my own heart. This is the kind of leader I want to be.

Have a read and let me know in the comments on what is leadership to you. If you love his article, please do visit his website for more wonderful works of his.


“Before you are a leader, success is all about growing yourself. When you become a leader, success is all about growing others.” – Jack Welch

Everyone of us wanted to “be somebody.”  Most of us wanted so deeply to inspire and move others, and to make a difference in a way that was unforgettable.

And that’s not a bad thing, you know.

But I want to tell you something. Until you know and discover yourself, you are lost. Once you find yourself, you can be found by others.

Who is a leader?

A leader is a teacher by default. A leader doesn’t try to be happy all the time, but embraces every aspect of his or her process, quietly shining the light for others to do the same.

A real leader doesn’t try to lead, but simply becomes the kind of person who others observe, learn from, and feel inspired to follow.

As I learn to live my life for me first, I begin to see how the choices I make affect more than just me. When I’m operating from a place of fear, worrying about how others perceive me, that limits the positive impact that I can have on the people around me.

This makes me realize how much opportunity there is to be of service in the world, just by living my own life honestly, authentically, and in alignment with my own heart.

It’s important for us to understand the power of learning about who we really are and what really matters to us. Then, we can align our choices with the morals and boundaries we set for ourselves from a place of self-love and self-respect.

What we contribute to the world through the choices that we make has a ripple effect. Your life affects mine, and vice versa.

Ultimately, the way we choose to interpret and perceive things will not only affect our own well-being, but it will affect the collective well-being. Therefore, we must lead by example. We must honor ourselves instead of judging ourselves.

Judgment keeps us stuck exactly where we are, and the world suffers as a result.

When we’re conscious of the simple, yet profound power that lies within our choices, we can create a better world every day and be powerful leaders just by shining our own light.

Ultimately it comes down to this: What kind of person do you want to be? Who does your heart know you already are? What type of world do you want to create for yourself and for the future generations? Do you believe you have the power to make a positive difference?

I believe we are all leaders inside. I believe that we all have something to teach one another. I believe that there is power in living authentically, in alignment with our own hearts and intuition.

Everything we do matters, whether we realize it in the moment or not.

This is not to say that we should expect ourselves to be perfect, because that’s not realistic, and we can always learn a lot from mistakes. However, I have to wonder what the world would be like if we all took responsibility for what we were contributing or not contributing to it.

I have to wonder how nice it would be to live in a world where everyone chose to learn from wisdom, rather than from fear.

What if everyone thought “What can I bring to the world?” instead of “What can I take from it?”

If we choose to awaken the leader within, then life is no longer about “us against them” or comparison, competition, and all these things that are rooted in separation and fear, which ultimately destroy us.

Instead, we can choose to quietly lead by example, from a place of wisdom, responsibility, integrity, trust, love, joy, and connection to each other.

As our inner leader awakens, we will know who and what we really are and what we contribute does make a difference. I am already somebody. You are already somebody.

Thank you for reading. Don’t forget to share your thoughts. It can only get better.


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58 replies on “Guest Post: A LEADER

  1. Wonderful post. A real leader is not some reality tv star who likes to shout “You’re fired!” as often and as loud as he can. He also doesn’t toy with or demean others for a cheap thrill or applause and laughter.

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  2. Hi, Kally.

    Enjoyed your selection for the guest blog, but just a couple comments.
    Most of it is very good advice, e.g. living honestly, authentically.
    However, I disagree with the author’s premise that we need to “learn to live for me first.” This is the assumption most people make every day; very few live with Father’s whisper in their ear being their first focus of the day. Further setting our “morals and boundaries – for ourselves from a place of self-love” is very dangerous. Again, what most people do.
    Scripture teaches “no one ever hated his own flesh.” (Eph 5:29) That is why Jesus could teach, “Love your neighbor as you love yourself.” He knew to assume we all love ourselves, and setting boundaries based on that self-love will exclude those whom He wants us to embrace.
    Beyond that though, his conclusion to lead by example and take responsibility for what we contribute or not is spot on with the Biblical call for each of us to prepare for an accounting someday when we meet our Creator.
    thanx for sharing this thoughtful blog! 🙂

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    1. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. I really appreciate that sharing your views will make us think deeper and perhaps do some self-reflect. Have a wonderful week.

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  3. “A *Leader* is a person with the power, wisdom, knowledge, and talent
    to teach others to become successful in their lives
    a type of success the leader possesses
    he/she lead others to pursue their goals
    and attain their goals.

    “Van Prince

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