Hey! How’s everyone? It has been two months from my last update on this post and there have been some major new stuff going on in my life in Malaysia and I like to share with all of you. 

Back to Square One Again 

First up, yes we are back in lockdown again. Less restricted than the last one we were in but they have taken away swimming and schools. I won’t go into why the number started spiking in Malaysia. I don’t want to get into a silly political argument. If you like to know, you probably can google for it. So now, everyone is mostly staying at home, keep themselves safe and trying to cope with the 3rd wave of this pandemic. 

However, it is less intense than the last lockdown. Probably because expectations are set and there are no nasty surprises. Malaysia has done so well keeping the numbers down during the last lockdown, this has bring on confidence in her people that we can bring down the numbers again, as long as we cooperate and comply with precautions. 

Knowing Who Are The Selfless and Selfish Ones 

During this period, you get to see different kinds of people. Those who appear selfless pre-covid times, may surprise you with their selfish actions. Likewise the other way around. 

I know someone who criticises those who don’t wear masks yet choose to send her child to school when he was having a fever. 

I also know of another person who hardly leave his home, chooses to step up and volunteer to help the elderly with their groceries shopping so they don’t need to leave their house and expose themselves to risk.

I’ve seen awesome folks who give away things for FREE and not just freebies or cheap stuff but laptops, iPads, mobiles, furniture, televisions, branded bags to those who needs them.  This just blown my mind. 

Then Again, The Whiners

I try my best to stay away from them. Don’t get me wrong, people can complain or bitch about life and I’m always ready to lend my open ears and shoulders to cry on. But there is a thin fine line between complaining and whining. 

Complaining is such that you have some grudges that you want to get off your chest and vent it out, and you don’t mind if someone gives you constructive feedback and possibly solutions, and you act on it to remove that trouble in your life. 

Whining, on the other hand, is those who keep on harping on the same issue over months (sometimes years!) and plain refuse to act on the issue at hand that it become a part of their identities. Whiners also choose to throw major tantrums at the slightest misfortune when it is affecting most people. Such negativity often bring me down so I try my best to stay away from them. 

This lockdown shown more and more of these whiners crawling out of nowhere. 

People who complain that they can’t use the communal swimming pool. (Solution: Go get your own house with your own pool!) 

Folks who whine that they can’t go to the shopping malls. (Solution: Nobody says you can’t, just don’t bring your entire family, young and old to the Malls.) 

Parents who whine that the schools are closed. (Solution: Genuine concerned parents who fear their child is missing out on education will step up and homeschool their child. There are plenty of free resources online. Those who whine and not do anything are those usually who sees school as a form of childcare that keep their child away from them so that they can have their own time.) Get some perspective here, please. The schools are closed to protect your child and you. 

Relationship on A Test

Lockdown has been hard for many families especially couples. There used to be work as a major distraction. With working from home arrangements, I’m staring at my husband and he is glaring right back at me 24/7. And we can’t even leave the house for some breathing space! That bound to create friction and sparks! 

My husband often fly so much for work (precovid times) that it is a running joke that I am a single parent. Now that he is home ALL THE TIME, and little things can get on our nerves. Like our 3 year old running around the home screaming and yelling gets on his nerves but I have long tuned out that noise. Or the way he likes to point out that certain chores are not done during the day to get on my nerves – usually all the chores are completed before he gets to see it when he gets home from work. 

What keep us going strong is that we choose to focus on the good stuff in our lives. We choose to appreciate the little things like we still have our health, our jobs and we get to spend quality time with our child. We choose to busk in each other’s presence rather than to resent not having our own space. We count our blessings each day that we are together because we know of families separated between borders due to travel restrictions.

We don’t always have the best of moods but we bravely acknowledge that, chooses to close our ears when hurtful words flew at you and wisely create personal space so that the other party can calm down. 

Unfortunately, not all couples are as lucky as us. Plenty of our friends are facing difficulties in their relationships, with some of them going to couple therapies or seeking divorces. Most of them are on rocky grounds before the pandemic starts and with the lockdown, it was inevitable that cracks start to get deep and lead to a breakdown. 

2020 is almost over

With this year ending in a few months time and no vaccines in sight yet, I am remaining hopeful and positive that we will have a great year in 2021. 

Stay safe and smiling, everyone!

Last Update: 10 August 2020

Time flies by so quickly.

It’s been another two months from my last update on the situation in Kuala Lumpur from my perspective. I thought I’ll provide everyone here another round of updates of what is going on with this expatriate family. 

Accepting The New Normal

Our daily lives are almost back to normal with a few exceptions. The mask, hand sanitising and temperature taking has become a routine embedded deep into our lives so much so that my daughter feels uncomfortable without wearing her mask. As little as she is (3 years old), I’m surprised that her mask can stay on the entire day without her touching her face at all. 

In reality, it is heartbreaking to me. That she is exposed to a procedure that is not normal but now that is integrated into her life, our lives. The only redemption is that she’s not alone. Millions of children are donning masks and face shields to save their own lives and their loved ones. As much as we explained (and keep explaining) to our young ones, I wonder how much they understand in their young minds. 

Without a vaccine, we will always be living with a little bit of fear in our hearts. 

Don’t Fear Fear 

A little fear is good. I remembered a common saying that “Good if you are scare, it means you will be careful.” 

As we go about our daily lives, wearing mask serve a reminder that the pandemic is not over yet. We have to stay vigilant and prepared in the event of a reoccurrence of another wave of infection. 

We shouldn’t be complacent but neither should we holed up like it is end of the world. Every individual needs are different and these are trying times so we all need to find that balance that we are comfortable with, without bending the laws or putting others in danger. While keeping in mind, we should practice tolerance and kindness within the community. 

I was invited to join a Facebook group that name and shame individuals who do not wear masks in public. Photos and videos will be taken of such individuals and posted online. I find such actions tactless.

Instead of shaming them online, wouldn’t it be more effective and humane to just remind the said individual to wear his mask? Or even better, carry an extra mask and offer to those you see without one? You may not know the individual could have forgotten his mask or maybe dropped his mask. He may be on his way to get a new mask. We’ll never know because we hide behind a camera phone and happily snapping photos to put on social media, hoping that it is my post that will go viral. 

The Pandemic That Made Us Start Questioning Each Other 

What has gone viral are the news that exposed the strengths and weaknesses in individual government in different countries. 

The unprecedented and unpredictable situation brings out the best and worst in crisis management of every government. 

While many citizens applauded the swift lockdown decision made by New Zealand government, economists around the world are wondering if it is at the cost of their GDP. Yet on the opposite side of the pole, you have countries that favour economic stability over lockdown restrictions, was it at the cost of its citizens’ lives? 

So how do you balance it out? As we praised some governments and booed some governments, we forgot that each country is different and every of her people will react differently. Decision making, strategy planning and forecasting in this type of magnitude is not something a single person can carry through. It takes a strong team of decisive, smart strategists to say when, how, what, why, where to execute a lockdown. I can imagine these decisions doesn’t come easily without hours and hours of meetings. 

Could you have done it better if you are in their shoes? I don’t know if I could. 

Singapore’s Public Housing where 80% of the population lives in.

Our National Day 

Yesterday was Singapore’s National Day. It has been 7 years since my husband and I left Singapore to pursue our careers overseas. We didn’t know how much we miss her until the pandemic strikes and suddenly we were forced to choose: stay back in Malaysia for our jobs and cats or gave up and go back Singapore to our families. 

My husband’s choice was to send me and our daughter back to Singapore to stay close with our families while he stay put and forge forward in Kuala Lumpur. My choice was to stay together as a family unit wherever we are and yes, our cats are considered in the family unit too! 

I won in case you didn’t read the earliest update of this post (scroll all the way down). We stayed put in Kuala Lumpur. And I’m very glad we did because we could have been separated since March lockdown until who-knows-when. 

I read that many expats are still separated from their wives, husbands, children because they happened to be overseas when Malaysia decided to close her borders. Those outside couldn’t come into Malaysia and those in Malaysia couldn’t go out for the fear they cannot get back in again. One of our close friends is stuck in Germany with her husband, unable to come home to her family in Malaysia because her husband is not holding a valid spousal visa to be able to enter into Malaysia. She is stuck between choosing to stay behind with her husband in Germany or go back to Malaysia to her elderly parents. 

But two major events made us wish we were back in Singapore. 

One was during our National Election Day which was 10th July 2020. Voting is compulsory in Singapore but because we are located overseas, we are exempted. However, as a citizen, we feel that it is our civic duty to vote and elect our choice of leaders in a democracy. 

Another event was National Day. Happy 55th Birthday, Singapore!

Now that our little girl is 3 years old, we wanted to bring her home to participate in the celebrations and remind her that she is a Singaporean. She get excited when it was Malaysia National Day because her local friends are excited. We wanted her to feel the same excitement when it is Singapore National Day too.

However, the National Day Parade is moved online instead of the usual celebration at a single location due to safe social distancing. Another new norm that we must get used to.

Be Grateful and Be Hopeful

But these are minor inconveniences (we keep reminding ourselves) in the sight of the greater good. Keeping ourselves safe, not burdening the medical system in either countries and not be an asymptomatic carrier plays a crucial part to end this virus war. 

So instead of becoming bitter and frustrated, we watched and celebrated Singapore National Day over Facebook Live Broadcast via a set up projector. We sang the songs, belted out our National song and pledge proudly and go woos and ahhs over the fireworks with our daughter. 

Watch the fireworks here!

As much as we miss our families back home, we are grateful that all of us are healthy. None of our friends we know are sick. We can still keep in touch and see each other with the advanced technologies like FaceTime, FaceBook and WhatsApp.

In the end, it is our choice to look at the positive of the situation, make it work for us and forget the negativity. 


Last Update: 10 June 2020

It’s been over 2 months since my last update on the pandemic situation here in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia. I thought I should give a quick run through what my family and I are going through as a guest in a foreign country.

Restrictions Easing Up

While we are still discouraged from lingering outside, many commercial places are reopening for business. Places like shopping malls, restaurants and retail stores have stringent requirements in place.

Most places will require you to leave your contact details, take on-spot temperature, sanitise your hands and wear a mask before you are allowed to go in.

I have noted that there are some discomfort and concerns around the expatriate community that leaving contact details would mean an invasion of privacy (I believe this is not unique to Malaysia, probably around the globe).

Leaving your contact details helps in contact tracing in the event of an outbreak. If someone who is tested positive for Covid-19 happened to be in the same shop as I am at the same time, I would want to be notified immediately. This is so I can take immediate precautionary measures like self-quarantine or go a test to protect my family living under the same roof.

If the government wants to know how many times I go out to do my groceries, how long I spend in the supermarket and how much I spend, I am happy to allow them to take my data.

It is as if we are not leaving a paper trail (credit cards) and location data (GPS) daily, even way before Covid-19 was a thing.

Parents rejoice! Some schools are reopening

I’m not following the education news much in Malaysia since I’m homeschooling my three-year-old. I do know that some daycare centres for preschoolers in Kuala Lumpur started to open across the country as industries are slowly reopening to allow the economy to recover.

With effective of 2 June, Singapore schools have reopened as well even though the classes are held on a rotational schedule instead of full 5-day classes weekly.

Many parents confided to me that they are worried that their children are missing out on learning. I always tell them education is not only in books, neither is knowledge comes from blackboards.

Learning is everywhere and everything. Helping out in the kitchen means your child is learning. Taking a stroll in the park, your child is learning too. Heck, even plopping your child in front of the television, he is still learning something.

It doesn’t mean that you need to send your child to school for your child to pick up knowledge.

This is when I realised that we parents are relying heavily for our schools and educators on our next generations’ knowledge. Such heavy responsibility and burden weighing down on a teacher’s shoulder but yet we are paying them so miserably. I guess this is a subject that I should expand on a new article.

While the essential workers can now ease off their worries about who can take care of their children while they are working, there are other groups of parents who are sceptical about sending their kids this soon. Especially if their kids are preschoolers.

Although the fatality rate for those under 9 years old is very low, it always good to be careful.

Domestic Travels are Open Again

We do miss a lot of little things like going to a park together on a sunny day, a supermarket trip with my little one or having a hotpot buffet dinner outside with my family (without the aftermath of washing up) or a trip to ToysRUs for my daughter to pick a toy to reward for good behaviour or swimming and splashing in the pool on a hot sweltering afternoon, or bringing my daughter to an indoor playground in a shopping mall.

Malaysia government just announced that domestic travels are allowed again. As much as we really wish that we can travel back to Singapore to see our families (our little one really misses her grandparents), we understand the importance to keep the international border close at this point. And we appreciate for any easing restrictions that allow us to stretch our legs. Little things count the most!

Taking precautionary measures (we will be wearing surgical masks, we are going to take a baby step towards this – we are going on a road trip!

Not too far off Kuala Lumpur, about 200km or 2.5-hour drive up north, we are going to Ipoh for a day trip.

We used to do a little drive up there once in a while for dim sum – one of my comfort food (for those do not know what’s dim sum, its bite-sized food that is served warm for breakfast or tea). Yes, our intended restaurant will adhere to government’s regulation in terms of spacing the tables apart and food handling.

We may have plans to bring the little one to a secluded beach in the next few months. One of the cons of living in the city, the seaside is so far away. I am an ocean lover and my little one loves swimming. So introducing her to the sea at this age is just nice.

Hopefully, when she is 12 years old, she wants to join her mama for a scuba dive to experience a different world underwater.

We will take precautions and monitor the pandemic situation in Malaysia especially our destination.

Nothing comes first than our health and safety.

Embracing Recession

Malaysia was already in an economic downturn before the pandemic starts, no thanks to 1MDB scandal. Now in political uncertainty, we are unsure if and when the economy will ever recover to its former glory.

We are impacted in some sense where my husband is still working full time from home, only going into the office once a week. As much as it is business as usual, we can see clients holding off in any form of big expenditures.

This is very much obvious in my case as a freelance recruiter. Some of my clients are pausing recruitment activities because of uncertainty. As a freelance writer, I’m thankful for my regular clients, the stream of work are consistent. I shall update some more in this area in another post.

Remaining Hopeful

Despite what everyone is going through, we should remain positive and hopeful. This may just be the clean slate we need to restart living our lives right.

Start putting priority in spending quality time with our loved ones.

Start caring wholeheartedly for our environment.

Start looking into our lives deeper and questioning ourselves if this is the way we want to live for the next chapter in our lives, what legacy are we living for our next generation and how we should change it.

Even it means baby steps. Better a step than nothing at all.


Last Update: 25 March 2020

After posting a few of the Covid-19 related articles, many of you are asking after my well-being. Thank you. We are safe, all 3 of us, my husband, my 3-year-old daughter and myself.

I felt that I should share little more on the situation based on my end so you can understand what is it like for an expat like me amid the covid-19 period.

Too Much Negativity

The news is full of it. So is my Facebook feed. Reports after reports, everyone is reporting on the stats of every country’s infection status or the shelves in the supermarkets are empty or which country is banning who from travelling from. It is depressing.

So when Malaysia started reporting on the political news of Mahathir resignation and Muhyiddin Yassin becoming Malaysia‘s 8th Prime Minister, it was so refreshing to read something unrelated to Covid-19.

Not that I follow up much on Malaysia politic scene, but it’s either that or obsessing on which countries are now top 10 infected countries, what are the number of new cases today.

On top of that, we are constantly besieged by friends and family forwarding news about the Covid-19. Some of them are useful but a lot of them are fake news and quite disturbing in fact. With the numbers not letting up, it is possible that the Movement Restriction Order may continue or even restrictions be stricter.

So for MiddleMe, I will try not to write about Covid-19 that much and limit any Covid-19 related article only once a week if any. There are just too many Covid-19 articles out there jamming my inbox and my social media feeds. I need more cute kitten videos!

Our Family Situation

Both my husband and I are constantly debating every day whether should we go back to our home country, Singapore. While living in Kuala Lumpur, travelling home will mean either a 5-hour drive or a 45 mins flight home.

Singapore has implemented 14 days stay home self-quarantine on all who returned from overseas, while Malaysia has just begun 14 days of movement restriction. So in reality, it makes little difference if we were to stay put in Kuala Lumpur or to go back to Singapore.

Do we want to risk our safety to be on a flight with others even it is just 45 mins? Even if we drive, we will be staying with our family in Singapore and this means lesser social distancing and more exposure since we will be staying with my parents-in-law and sis-in-law versus us three over in Kuala Lumpur.

The cementing factor comes from our furry kids, the 3 cats. We’ll never leave them behind and 14 days away will just be too much without us around. Mostly because I’ll miss them too much.

Everything and Everywhere Closed

During this Movement Restriction Order in Malaysia, there are many similarities to a lockdown. Mainly the things that impact us are those activities we took for granted. Once again, I am humbled by this experience.

Schools Closure

This doesn’t affect us as much as those families with school-going kids.

Many moms are grabbing their hair in frustration in trying to cope with their children’s boredom and finding learning activities to occupy them. You can’t have them glue to the television or iPad for 12 hours!

My little one and I homeschooled so we are used to having lessons and activities at home. I have plenty of ready learning materials to occupy her for weeks.

But my little one still misses her Friday sessions at her Language Playschool as well as her friends at the playschool.

Swimming Pool Closed

The weather (30 to 34 degree Celsius) is perfect for that dip in the pool. Sadly, our community pool is closed to adopt social distancing and avoid gathering at the poolside.

So one of the best outlet to let off children’s energy is out. By the way, the playground is closed too.

Food Establishments Closed

We also missed dining out during the weekends as restaurants closed and only available for takeaway or delivery. We always like picking new places to try out new dishes.

Shopping Malls Closed

My little one has missed going to the malls. She enjoys her shopping trips and eating at the sushi bars.

She loves the buzzing activities, noise and people traffic in malls. She loves windows shopping at the ToysRUs even though she knows Mommy won’t buy her anything.

She loves reading at the bookstores because she knows if she asks nicely, Mommy may buy her a book!

You Cannot Be Outside

We missed our nature walks as a family. My daughter has been asking when she can ride on her scooter again.

My husband has to sacrifice jogging and going to the gym. The only exercise he has now is to chase my little one around the house as she desperately tries to avoid being caught to put down for naps.

Even when we do groceries, only one person from a household can be appointed to go out alone to the supermarket. This is irritating because I have the expertise manipulating the different food section quickly and efficiently including eyeballing for sale items and calculating in my head the number of diapers we need, my husband has the brute strength to carry everything I bought (or overbought) and my daughter has that irresistible cute face that gets freebies (I lost count how many free lollipops and balloons she gotten from supermarket cashiers and security guards.)

Together, we are a perfect dream team. This is one regular activity we missed doing as a family.

Positivity is the only way to go

So in this crisis, what are the shining lights?

We must remember to always look at the positive side and eventually we will bounce back stronger and more resilient. It is easy to slip into depression with so much unknown. Will we still have a job in the near future? What will happen when this is over? Are we safe? What are our governments doing?

Instead of dwelling on the unknowns, I have chosen to live for the moment. Sure, the daunting factors are always at the back of my mind but it doesn’t do me much good to hold on to things I can’t control except to be vigilant and take preventative measures.

We try to live our lives like before, just with a few exclusions. Home lessons still go on, we still have pancake on Sundays and we still gather around at nights for late-night movies.

What are the positives for me as an expat?

More family bonding time

Since my husband doesn’t need to travel anymore, he has more time to bond with us. He has taken part in helping me to homeschool my little one.

Without going out, we clear our living room so that he can kickball with my little one, working up a sweat within one hour!

Deeper Understanding

My husband can see what I am doing on my usual days with my little one at home.

While he has an inkling that I don’t just nap all day at home, he now helped out the household chores and put himself in my shoes where I am indoor on most days without interacting with adults and dealing with tantrums.

Time to do what we always put off

Whether it is fixing that old leaky pipe in the house or organizing the entire wardrobe by colours, we have time to do what we always been putting off.

With extra hands around, I can take up online courses that I always wanted to do but don’t have the time. Books are being read and movies are being watched. We are clearing our back up to-do list with vigour.

Learning to be Frugal

Cutting down our groceries run from twice a week to only necessary runs, we try to be as frugal as possible to maximise what we have in the fridge.

We stopped online shopping and only buy what are daily necessities. With my little one, we devised games and activities with materials we have.

Heartwarming Community

Whether with local Malaysians or with the expatriate groups, it is heartwarming to read and hear stories of how people come together to help one another.

I applaud those who offer to do groceries run for those elderly and disabled in their neighbourhood. We clapped along with others on our balconies and windows at a certain scheduled time to cheer for our frontline medical team. I have reached out to some of my fellow Singaporeans in Malaysia to share stories on how we are doing and encouragement.

It is time for everyone to hang on tight as we go on this long journey and hopefully, this pandemic will end soon so we can start picking up the pieces. So stay positive, stay safe and take care, everyone.

For more Covid-19 articles, here are some that I wrote:
Covid-19: Malaysia Movement Control Order Announcement – Biggest Impact will be Workers
Covid-19: Employees asked to Take Unpaid Leave by Companies
Covid-19 Outbreak: What are Companies doing right by their employees

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132 replies on “* New Updates * Lockdown from Covid-19: From an Expat's Point of View

  1. Kally Thank you for sharing your story and your dilemma. In Canada we are facing a second wave.
    Much more severe than the first.
    I Hope we don’t experience a third wave. So much is unknown. We have to adjust to this new normal. It is not easy, but we will persevere and defeat this monster.

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  2. Thanks for sharing what’s going on in Malaysia. I am impressed by people giving away computers and mobilephones for free to help others. It also made me think, that polititions should start thinking of acting globally together against that virus. It’s a crazy idea, but imagine if in the whole world people would lockdown themselves for 3 weeks…

    Europe is currently dealing with the 2nd wave. In Italy superior schools are closed; in some regions also middle and elementary schools. It’s not such a big a problem for parents, whose children are teenagers or who can work from home. However, everyone who needs to go out for work and has children between 6 and whatever age you find apropriate for children to stay at home independently is in trouble. In the beginning of the first wave children stayed at home with their grandparens, who often became infected. Now children stay at home with babysitters, who can bring the virus into your home, as well. That just happened in a family of friends.

    Let’s hope that 2021 brings a vaccine fast! It seems the only solution.

    All the best! C.

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    1. You know what, Corinna? I have the exact same idea too!! Except the global lockdown is for 1 month. Because we will have people misbehaving and protesting and what not. Then we won’t need the vaccine anymore. Because everyone stayed at home, no more super spreaders.

      But we can hope.

      Take care and stay smiling. It’s going to be a quiet Christmas this year.

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