You have known to dish out good bits of advice. I wonder if you can help me out in my situation. I’m not very good with people and probably lack people skills.
I am a fresh grad who landed myself a job straight after my graduation. You can say I am very lucky. I worked in a Fortune 500 company and my focus is in media strategy.
I love my job and my company. It’s my dream to come into this company so I work very hard. I am always early and be among the last to leave the office. I meet all my deadlines and I do all my tasks without much difficulty. My job doesn’t require me to work with others that much so I’m pretty much a loner in the office.
I did try to mingle with my team when I first started but I found it uncomfortable so I gradually stopped. Not that they are not nice people, it’s just that I really want to put all my attention on my work instead of rubbing shoulders.
My problem is that I feel my supervisor is very cold towards me. It always has been that way since day one. I thought I am overly sensitive but I have seen him with other members of my team and he behaves differently. He laughs and jokes around them. With me, he is always so serious. I don’t know if I offended him in the past.
My 6 months probation period is up next week. I don’t want to lose my job. I really think I contribute a lot to the team. What should I do to make him like me?
Thank you so much.
Thank you for reaching out to me. I hope my answer get to you in time before your probation period is up.
As you mentioned, your probation period is next week. This is a good chance to have a sit down chat with your supervisor. Here are some pointers to bring up your problem:
- Allow your supervisor to complete his observations on you. Don’t interrupt him unless he asks a question.
- When you bring up your problem, be diplomatic and leave the emotion factor out.
- Instead of directing asking if your supervisor likes you, ask if he thinks you are a team player or if he thinks you are the right fit for the team.
- Seek suggestions on how you can improve your situation in your team.
Finally, your supervisor doesn’t have to like you for you to do your work. However, a close bond within the team is important for success in any company. You don’t have to go your way out to fake friendliness with your colleagues but a cheerful “good morning” or a smile won’t hurt.
I wish you all the best in your discussion. I really do hope you get to stay in your job.
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