A Word Of Advice: Money Or My Soul?

Hey ya, Kally,

I read so many great things about you and I thought I’d throw in my problem for you to solve as well.

Really, I’m at the end of the road here. I have been working for my company for almost 9 years. That is since graduation. Never once I love my job. Not that I hate it but you know, it’s just something that brings food to the table.

I know, I know, a lot of my friends are saying I’m wasting my life on something I don’t even like to do. I’m an administrator and the only one in my company so that’s utterly no career prospects whatsoever. But I stayed because the salary is good, the benefits are great and my boss is very understanding and a nice chap. 2 years ago, my mother had a car accident and was bedridden for a month, he actually allows me to work from home for two months to care for her.

To tell you the truth, my boss knows I don’t really fit in the company nor my current role but he hasn’t done anything about it so it’s really up to me. That is if I want to push the envelope. I don’t know even where to go if I leave this company. Maybe it is just, all the same, to stay put where I am. It’s a scary world out there, isn’t it?

I love to hear your point of view on all these. Should I stay or should I bid farewell?

Lots of Blessings,
Layla S.


Hi Layla,

Thank you for keeping in touch all these while.

I hear you loud and clear. I know taking a leap is a very big step into the unknown. Especially when you have been in your job for the past 9 years. 9 years! Within that timeframe, you didn’t move anywhere in the company, you didn’t learn a new skill and to quote you, your boss knows what’s going on and couldn’t help you.

I’d usually advice to go for a smaller change – maybe to move within your company, get a different role because it is easier with a familiar environment and culture is probably going to be the same. But it seems to me that over 9 years, nobody except your boss thinks that it is okay for you to stay stagnant in the same position. Not even HR interfere.

Hmm.. then I’ll say take the leap and go for something you will enjoy working for.

Before you leap blindly, search in your heart on the things you really enjoy doing. We don’t want you to blindly grope your way into another administrator role in a similar fashioned company. Go and challenge yourself. Travel. Be inspired. Then find your burning passion. Hunt down the job that fuels that passion.

Sitting at your desk, being complacent and slowly merging into that black leather of your office chair isn’t going to be good for you. Life is about challenges, excitement and epic adventures. I think you already felt that this job is weighing your heart down, otherwise, you wouldn’t have written to me and continue to be blindly blissful.

I wish you all the best in your search for career happiness. Yes, you can actually be happy while you work.

Regards,
Kally@MiddleMe.net

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41 Comments Add yours

  1. annaecamilla says:

    I would say to keep this job still and abandon it only if you have found a better one. Careful life is not easy!

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    1. Kally says:

      Thanks for contributing your advice!

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      1. annaecamilla says:

        You’re welcome! 🌺

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  2. thiaBasilia says:

    O Kally! Hahaha! Send her my way. She’ll really be INSPIRED….

    Guess what? Change for me again! Amazing! Read the post for today.

    Much love, thia. 🙂

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    1. Kally says:

      You, my Thia is always such an advocate for changes in life. That’s what makes our lives so epic and interesting isn’t it?

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      1. thiaBasilia says:

        Yeap! Fromatting the booklet about the latest radical change. Would u like to read it? email me! 🙂

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        1. Kally says:

          I’m sure your book will be awesome! I need to find time to read anything.

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  3. Patty says:

    We have a saying in The Netherlands..’don’t throw away your old shoes, before you’ve got yourself new ones’. Write down talents and skills, hobbies you’re passionate about and go explore the possibilities to find related work options. They do exist!
    But most of all, stick to your gut feeling. One works to live life and even it the current job isn’t all that exciting but provides enough to live an exciting life, why change the job?

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    1. Kally says:

      Great advice, Patty!!! Hit this one with a bulleye!

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      1. Patty says:

        Thanks dear! By the way, enjoying my last ‘free’ days with my hubby. Will reply to your email soon 😉 XxX

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        1. Kally says:

          Take your time with the reply, my dear.

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          1. Patty says:

            Ah shoot! Will reply tomorrow!

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          2. Kally says:

            Got your reply! Now it’s my turn to drag… haha! Have a lovely Friday, dear.

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  4. equipsblog says:

    Is there nothing in the current company you would like to see changed? Sounds like the boss might be open to suggestions,if he let you work from home. Best of luck in whatever path you elect to pursue.

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    1. Kally says:

      Thank you for inputting your advice next to mine.

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      1. equipsblog says:

        Hope it was helpful. I was usually lucky enough to work in places that if I wanted to do something additional, it was almost always encouraged. Not every place will allow that and not everyone has an idea of something they would like to try. I love your blog and how much you can assistance you can provide for each person’s question, issue, or complaint.

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        1. Kally says:

          Any positive advice is always welcome here in MiddleMe. And all kinds of insights are helpful too! Thank you so much for contributing. It is this close community that makes this a great website to share! 😊

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          1. equipsblog says:

            You set the tone. Keep up the good work.

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          2. Kally says:

            Always love and appreciate your support. You’re awesome

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  5. equinoxio21 says:

    Hi Kally
    I support your advice. Time for a change. A well-planned change. A few more months won’t make a difference. The key thing is: what does she want to do? Even the wildest thing. Write those things down. Maybe in columns. Write rows of Pros and cons. (An Excell sheet would work well.) Let it sit a few days. Less than a week. Then start moving.
    Hope all is well with you?
    (Are you enjoying your driver’s license?)

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    1. Kally says:

      Thank you for supporting and acknowledging my advice. And your input is so welcome here.

      Everything is crazily good with me. Just up to my head with so much ideas. Yes, I have been driving short distance, practicing my parking now. Not an easy task, just need to boost my courage and not wreck the car. Haha.

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      1. equinoxio21 says:

        Hehe! You are so right. Driving is not the most difficult part. Parking is. 🙂
        Don’t worry: time and practice does it all.
        Ride safely.

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        1. Kally says:

          Thank you, peng you. I Guess I can’t do much damage to the car when I’m parking versus driving recklessly.

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          1. equinoxio21 says:

            Ha ha. Somehow, I don’t see you as reckless. (At least in a car)

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          2. Kally says:

            Hahahaha. You’ll see a nervous wreck gripping the wheel with sweaty hands!

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          3. equinoxio21 says:

            Haha! Don’t worry. You will get over it soon. in 5-10 years you should be okay. 😉

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          4. Kally says:

            In 5 to 10 years, I probably will be a better driver with a whiny teenager at the backseat. Haha!

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          5. equinoxio21 says:

            Most likely. 😉

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  6. Great advice Ms Kally.

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    1. Kally says:

      Thank you, Nikki! And welcome to MiddleMe!

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  7. DutchIl says:

    Seems to me time for change.. perhaps she can work at home full time?.. if not, consider all the options and then ” make sure you are right and do it”… life is scary but “Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.” Helen Keller …. and the business could disappear leaving her with nothing…

    As for finding happiness, perhaps it is time for her to pack her knowledge, her experience and her courage and move on… 🙂

    “It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.” Agnes Repplier

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    1. Kally says:

      Great advice! Change is always good especially if you are compelled to move on. By writing to me, she knows in her heart she needs changes in her life.

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      1. DutchIl says:

        “Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past and present are certain to miss the future.” John F. Kennedy

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        1. Kally says:

          Ah nice quote from you on a Saturday

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  8. I agree, so-long as you can still support your family.

    God first

    Family second

    Work next; but you do have a right, normally, to enjoy what your doing.

    Don’t BURN any bridges, and be sure you carefully investigate your new employer at least as much as they do you. DO NOT SHARE that your looking with anyone besides your wife; THIS CAN come back and bite you.

    Best of everything in your effort,
    Patrick

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    1. Kally says:

      Good point on not burning any bridges. I usually don’t burn my bridges too, well, unless I really detest the person which is nearly next to none.

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  9. Dave says:

    Great advice Kally 🙂
    Follow your passion and this means tuning in and really listening to yourself.
    I will share with you a quote from one of my favourite writer’s on self development and spirituality.

    “When you feel good, you feel God”
    Dr Wayne Dyer

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    1. Kally says:

      Thank you, Dave for sharing something so beautiful. How are you, buddy? Haven’t bump into you for awhile.

      Liked by 1 person

      1. Dave says:

        Sweet 🙂
        I’m doing just fine doll. I’m still hanging around.
        Excellent article Kally!

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