I am a mother, daughter, wife, writer, freelancer, career counselor, volunteer all roll into one little me. That’s many hats to wear on one little head!
And some critics do love to highlight that I’m not giving my best to my family, namely my daughter. I have met one such criticism over the last weekend where I brought my daughter to playgroup. One of the mothers pointed out that she solely devoted all her time to her child and will never think to divert her attention to anywhere else. She thinks that it is the mothers’ role to dutifully focus on the need of the family and not herself.
Shame on her to guilt trip me!
The reality is that we often wear many hats. Naturally, we are all someone’s parent, child, siblings. What roles we add on to that will add colors into our lives and many others.
Of course, there are times that things happened all at once and you suddenly find yourself unable to breathe, it’s all too overwhelming. I’ve been there when suddenly I’m thrown into mayhem and my commitments piling up on me. Those times, I stopped myself, asked myself what and who are the priorities and never been afraid to ask for help.
I want every single moment of my time to be truly fulfilled. Whether it is playing blocks with my little one, rushing deadlines for my clients, conducting interviews over Skype for my projects or just cuddling up on my couch with a pint of rum and raisins ice cream, enjoying an old movie. I can’t find myself idling for long. Soon, a challenge or an idea will come along and I’ll be tempted to try to balance among my other priorities.
True that I love my child very much and true that you can wear too many hats at the same time. However, it all narrows down to the capability of oneself, isn’t it? I’m able to handle both my family chores, professional work and volunteering easily but that doesn’t mean another person can and I don’t think less of that person if they can’t (unless they start shaming me like the one above).
Everyone has different limitations and boundaries. All of us has different learning curves.
For me, I can’t just grow together with my child as a Mother. I need to grow as Kally, the individual too. Only by growing in all aspects of myself, can I show my little girl that you can stretch yourself and your limits to see how far you can go.
To love yourself and others as much as you love yourself.
To love yourself is to know yourself, take time to explore who you are, take opportunities as they come to challenge yourself to greater heights, take courses to improve yourself and in turn, learn to let go of foolish worries and unimportant things.
Yes, to an outsider, I may wear a lot of hats at once. I know the saying of the jack of all trades and master of none but right now, I don’t need to be a master of anything. All I am contented is that I go to bed at the end of the day, tired but satisfied, knowing that I have accumulated experiences, memories and live my day to the fullest I know how.
To me, that is good enough.
What are the hats you wear currently? Do you think you wear too much? Share with us in the comments below.