Throughout my career, I am blessed with wonderful bosses that taught me so much about life and business. Many of them became personal friends as well as mentors. But the ones I learned the most from are the bosses from hell. For one, I learned to grit my teeth, simmer my anger, prolong my patience and smile through my anger.
If you are like me, going through hell with your current boss, you might find this article useful. Read this before you decide to stab him or her with a knife!
Avoid Direct Confrontation
Sure, there are times you need to fight it out with your boss to protect your rights and there are times where direct confrontation will just make you go crazy. Like mad person crazy. Choose other ways to get the message across instead of making your blood boil everyday.
I had this idiot for a boss when I was in the education industry. Any confrontation with her is a waste of my time and effort. So instead of confronting her on important matters, I choose to email her and copy everyone else in the same team. That usually drives home my points and by typing out something black and white, she has to watch her words and make it look corporate positive.
Find Alternative Route
If my boss is someone I don’t look up to or can’t work well with, I’ll try to swap team or change my department. In any case, I’ll try to change my boss with the least impact to my role as possible. If I can’t perform my best with a horrible boss, it only drags the company down. Negativity breeds negativity so no point forcing two mismatch people together.
Imagine A World Without Him (Or Her)
My world has no place for bosses from hell. Instead of dreading to come to work everyday, I don’t let such idiot spoil my day. I go to work and I imagine as much as possible a world without my evil boss. As long as I don’t need to face him directly, I can get away thinking my world is perfect. Once I even traded my window facing desk with another colleague for a full little corner desk because I was seated where his yelling is within my hearing range. That colleague is a bit hard on hearing so she didn’t mind because his yelling is kinda muted to her and she really wants a window desk for a few years.
Know Your Limits
I can tolerate and forgive lazy, arrogant, lying, overpromising, backstabbing, scheming bosses. Yes, my tolerance level is super high. (Even higher now that I am well trained by my little diva.) But I have my limits too. I cannot stand stupidity. I just can’t find a walkaround solution for idiots who keep dishing out poor decisions time after time without learning from their mistakes. Those are the bosses I can’t work with and it’s either him or me, no two of us in the same team.
If all else fails and I rather use up all my leaves to hide at home than to save them for a good holiday, I know I’m having it bad. If that is the case, I’ll look at other greener pastures out there. Maybe I’ll find a boss who appreciates my effort, encourage my creativity, fuel my passion and inspire me to go beyond my limits. And that is a boss that earns my respect.
Have you had any bad bosses’ experiences? Please share with us how you manage to survive in the comments below.
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