Why Is It So Hard to Create Permanent Habits

Every person has habits they rely on to complete certain activities at their own pace. It is not very hard to forget habits because they are a part of daily life, and we constantly make new ones whenever we face something new.

However, making “permanent” habits is a different story as it can take years before one is fully developed. But why is this so? Here are some reasons why it is tough to create permanent habits:

  1. You do not have an aim you wish to achieve in life
  2. , and there is a lack of self-motivation to develop something new.
  3. Distractions are preventing you from focusing on your efforts to make new habits.
  4. You are surrounded by people who negatively influence your thinking.
  5. Specific memories or current life situations throw a wrench in your efforts to recover and develop new habits.
  6. You are experiencing extreme bouts of procrastination, or you tend to delay things for another time.
  7. There is a lack of perseverance to follow through with your targets and stick to new habits.
  8. Some permanent habits are hard to create because it requires a high intrinsic cost and decisions.

Fortunately, there are ways how you can overcome these challenges if you wish to build permanent habits, and you can do them immediately to get started. Some examples of how to focus on creating new and permanent habits include:

Create New Routines

Routines are essential in creating new habits. Routines are a set of behaviours that require effort to fulfil constantly, unlike habits, which are ingrained in our minds. As we stick to that routine, we are slowly creating a pattern you will stick with forever.

Set Intentions

As mentioned above, some people find it hard to develop permanent habits or habits in general because they don’t have an aim or motivation to pursue them. By having intentions, you can focus on these intentions to achieve the life you want to pursue.

Prepare For Any Challenges

Challenges can affect the way you build habits, and sometimes, you may lose your will to continue if it’s too much. Before a challenge can even stop you from your goal of building permanent habits, identify these obstacles and find a way to deal with them immediately when they appear.

Start Slowly

Acknowledge that building a permanent habit does not happen overnight. You will need to learn new skills and find the right balance to continuously do certain behaviours that will allow you to create a new habit. In the beginning, the learning curve may be steep. There will be times that you will fail, but if you take your time and slowly tweak your strategy, you will be able to achieve your goal of building a good habit. Don’t give up!

The eight reasons I listed above are only the tip of the iceberg for why people tend to find it challenging to build a permanent habit. If you are in this predicament, don’t worry because it is not the end of the world, and others are also experiencing this problem. You can enact simple steps to overcome the difficulty in developing habits. With persistence and hard work, you can change your mindset and build the proper permanent habits you will need in the future.

It is always good to improve yourself and push yourself to greater heights. I, for one, fear complacency and non improvement. So here are my tips to improve myself:
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9 Comments Add yours

  1. Yernasia Quorelios says:

    💎 – Diamond Hard – 💎

    💎The Only Constant is Change EveryOne; so I Suggest Make Adapting to Change YOUR!!! Only “Habit” or Suffer The Consequences of Resisting Change

    💎 – Diamond Hard – 💎



  2. Keith says:

    Kally, great post. A book my niece suggested I read is by Charles Duhigg called “The Power of Habit.” It is an excellent read. His theme is understanding the trigger for a bad habit and replacing it with a better one. There are many excellent examples therein. And, if that weren’t enough enticement, some guy named Aristotle is alleged to have said “we are creatures of habits.” Keith


  3. Adelheid says:

    I always find this to work on me: Start slowly. 😊

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  4. kinge says:

    True, habits can be hard to create but still possible. I also think repitition is very key in habit creation


  5. C.A. Post says:

    “The truth is you don’t’ break a bad habit. You replace it with a good one.” (Denis Waitley)
    ❤️&🙏, c.a.


  6. newwhitebear says:

    habits consolidate over time and are transformed into unconditional, automatic acts.
    But is it right to consolidate habits over time? I cannot give a valid answer, because there is a risk of becoming monothematic.


  7. Mabel Kwong says:

    This is an inspiring post. It’s easy to start something but it can be difficult to maintain it over the long run. You have to put in time and be consistent with it for it to become a routine so that it becomes natural to you. Agree with you that starting slow is important to as it can take a while to get good at the new habit.

    I also find that have a motivation as to why you want to create that new habit helps. At the start you might not have any motivation, but I guess that can be found by reflecting and ask yourself where you want to be and what you desire. For me one of the hardest habits to form was working out consistently. It was a start stop process but over time keeping at it and wanting to be healthier, it’s easier to keep up. Hope you are doing well, Kally 🙂


  8. usfman says:

    What if you don’t desire to create permanent habits and be spontaneous instead? Can that work?


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