I like to keep my options open so I almost never ever closed my mind on something. Who knows one day, I may be able to game professionally (not really have the patience to sit in front of a computer screen all night) or open a cafe (don’t drink coffee, can’t bake to save my life) or become a yoga teacher (the only pose I’m good at is the foetus position with my head on the pillow).
But I can, for sure, say I’ll never be an Uber driver.
Why the negativity?
I like being honest with myself. If I can’t be honest in my face, I can’t be honest with anyone else and honesty is the first step to trust, respect and love. And I have always advocate passion in your job. If you spend 40 hours a week doing something you have no interest in, you are wasting time.
Time is precious.
In fact, in my personal opinion, even living up to 90 years old is not enough for me because there are still so many memories to create, so many experiences to share.
So back to honesty, I don’t like driving. I really don’t. You can read about my dislike for driving here and here. I don’t like driving when I didn’t have a driving license AND I don’t like driving even when I passed my driving license at my first try (no easy feat given Singapore is pretty stringent on their driving test). Persuaded, coaxed and coerced by my family members, I decided to finally learn driving to add on to my list of life skills (together with my horrible cooking and falling asleep at anywhere).
Since I gotten my licence in June 2018, I have tried driving numerous time. Each time it did not get better. Each time, I alight my car, I feel like a burden has lifted off my shoulders. Every single time, I need to mumble to myself for 10 mins to stay calm before I start the car. And every time, I pretend to be sleepy / not feeling well / distracted so I can use it as an excuse to escape from driving.
It’s like working in a job you hate and you use up every excuse to call in sick, refuse to work outside your scope and try means and ways to work the bare minimal.
If you are in a job you hate or doing something you have no passion in, you are slowly destroying your soul inside you. Sure, you can give the job a chance or even two (just like I tried driving many times) but if you still end up not being completely satisfied, it is time to evaluate your options.
Going up forcefully against a brick wall or trying to fit a square peg in a hole will never attain a good results and you probably be miserable, disappointed and doubting your capabilities.
This is not to encourage to give up at the slightest obstacle or not to try something new. It is for you to be honest with yourself and learn to let go because you are not a master of everything, you can’t be good at everything. It is for you to decide it is time to admit that there is something you are not good at or don’t enjoy at all, and move on to strengthen what you do best or even try different new challenges.
For me, I know I’ll never make a good driver. As much as I am friendly, polite and you probably will enjoy our conversation during the ride but you’ll give me one star because I drove too slow, missed turning into the highway or worse, completely gotten us lost. Yes, even with Google Maps, I often get lost while walking, let alone driving. I’m that bad at directions.
Hey, I’m not perfect! But at least, I know I’ll never be happy driving myself or anyone else. I can only nod along, smiling politely while staring blankly at my Uber Drivers who self-profess their love for driving in their cars.
Please share with us on what jobs you will never be good at in the comments below.
For those looking to be inspired by professionals with passion, here are some to read:
Talking Passion With A Photojournalist
A Conversation About Passion, Work, And Our Impact On The World
Lesson Taught By A History Teacher
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