I have a lot of anger and disappointment in me right now. So much so I can’t wait to throw in my resignation when tomorrow comes. But I can’t because I still have my house and car loans to pay off. I can’t be beaten back to square one by some jerk who refuses to open his bloody eyes and see my talent.
I have been in the IT line for years. Years, I tell you, years! My boss’s probably sucking his thumbs when I first started out. But after slaving for this company for 10 years, they did not even give a hoot what I think. I was given a major project and a team of young mates under me. Through tears and hard work, the major project had a breakthrough last quarter, bringing the company tons of profits. After being in the same role for the past 5 years, I thought it’s overdue for a promotion and I explicitly expressed this to my boss.
So last month, one of the older guys in our department retires and I was hoping to step into his position. Instead, a young punk who only worked here for two years got the position. To make matters worse, my boss assigned me under him after I barged into his room, demanding an explanation. His only excuse was that there are more I could learn from the new boss! What the….!
Everyday is a torture now. I don’t know how I am going to talk to anyone. And right now, no one joins me for lunch anymore because they say I’m too negative for them.
Should I just up and go somewhere else?
Woah, dude! You need to calm down. Take a deep breathe and we’ll dissect your situation together, alright?
First of all, don’t be hasty to throw in the towel. You’re not about to surrender just because of a loss of a position. You must have love what you are doing and where you are in order to have stayed at the same company for 10 years! That’s no small feat. So don’t throw all away because of anger.
Speaking of anger, you do need anger management. I’m only hoping that you are venting on email to me and the truth is that you are a much gentler friendlier person in real life. By barging into your boss’s room, you have already proven to him and the rest of your department why you are not the right one for the new role.
You have no right to demand an explanation from your boss why someone else was chosen for the role and why you are transferred under him however, I believe if you were to ask nicely, putting it across the question as if you want to learn what you are lacking in, your boss might tell you or even guide you on the improvement areas.
It may seem that you might have scorned your bridges, however, there is still hope if you are willing to change. Show your bosses that you are ready to embrace a new team and a new leader. What you have is experience, use that to assist your new boss in achieving the team goals. Instead of moaning on what you have lost, focus on what you can gain in front of you.
If you find my suggestions too hard to swallow, then a different environment might suit you better. But do remember, if you bring your negativity and your temper to the next company, you might encounter the same situation again.