10 Must Have Tips for Dealing with Toxic People at Work

Some toxic people can make your work experience more complex in every workplace. These people are those who can stress you out with their very presence, actions, behaviours and quirks. Some of these toxic people don’t know they are causing their coworkers stress, while others thrive in the chaotic work environment and further incite tension.

Prolonged exposure to these stressful colleagues can take a physical and mental toll on you, affecting your work performance and overall health. Fortunately, there are ways to deal with these toxic colleagues at work and protect you from their negative influence.

Down below are 10 great tips you can adapt to your work life to help you deal with toxic people at work:

1. Set Limits

They want people to experience their suffering to feel better for toxic people. While you can ignore them, you may end up getting pressured to listen to them so they won’t see you as a rude colleague.

However, you need to set a limit as to how much “whining” or “complaining” you will listen to before you say “enough.” One good way to put a boundary is by asking these people how they will solve their problems.

2. Rise Above The Challenges

The longer you are with toxic people, the more they can drive you crazy. But, you shouldn’t let yourself get sucked into their affairs and affect you.

Set your distance from them and if you need to interact with them, treat them civilly and only speak to them about work and not their personal life.

3. Set Boundaries

Once you can set limits and rise to the challenge of dealing with these toxic people, you will be able to see their behaviour clearly and understand the best way to deal with them.

You can set boundaries that you have to enact proactively to get out of sticky situations brought by these toxic people.

4. Focus On The Solutions, Not The Problems

When dealing with toxic people, you shouldn’t focus on them and their behaviour because it only gives them power over your thoughts. Stop thinking about the problems they are causing and focus on how you can deal with their behaviour.

This will provide you with control over your emotions and reduce your stress whenever you are dealing with an unreasonable coworker.

5. Seek Help

You can only do so much on your own when dealing with toxic people, especially when all the stressful things at work pile together.

During these times, don’t be afraid to ask for help from your teammates and family to help you see the situation in a different light.

6. Realising That These People Don’t Care About Their Behaviour’s Effects On You

You are only wasting your time trying to appeal to these difficult people, especially if they won’t admit their mistakes and cause problems.

You can try reasoning to them or telling them that their actions affect the team. But, they won’t listen to you because the only thing that matters to them is themselves; instead of focusing on other things that will improve your work conditions and mindset, use the time.

7. Focus On The Positive

A great way to focus more on yourself and not your toxic colleagues is by thinking about what you are thankful for each day. You can discuss it with your colleagues, and it can help spread positivity in the workplace.

8. Get Them Out Of Your Head

If you let these people get into your head, it can be hard to get rid of the negativity they will bring. After work, don’t think about them and obsess about them outside of work. It will affect your emotions for the rest of the day and make things worse for you.

9. Meditate

To get rid of stress, meditation is an excellent activity between work. Meditation can help clear your mind of negative thoughts and help you focus on positive things.

10. Take Care Of Yourself

When dealing with a toxic person, you need to make sure you strengthen yourself. Focus on the positive, get a break and keep yourself healthy. If you focus on these good things, you will deal with these toxic people better and not let them ruin your day.

Having toxic people in the workplace is unavoidable as it is a part of any work-life, and you will need to learn how to adapt to these people and not affect your work performance. With these tips above, you can reduce the adverse effects of these people in your life and learn how to handle stress better.

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16 Comments Add yours

  1. Yernasia Quorelios says:

    💜 Just Don’t Be “Toxic” YOURSELF!!! EveryOne; it’s Crystal 🔮 Clear Clarity that if YOU!!! NOT!!! “Toxic” NOONE ELSE!!! is “Toxic” Non-Toxic is Infectious EveryBody


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  2. You are the best, Kally! 😉 I have to confess, the term “toxic people” was unknown by me, over the last years. Nontheless i had some of them around me, and it felt like i got sucked of any energy, too. Its very important, what you are writing. Thanks a lot, and have a beautiful weekend! xx Michael

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  3. Great post! Number 8 is my favorite because I tend to ruminate. 🤯

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    1. Kally says:

      Welcome to MiddleMe!

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  4. Great advice: thanks a lot for sharing


  5. equinoxio21 says:

    Good tips. I wonder whether toxicity is on the rise?

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    1. Kally says:

      From what I’ve heard, it is. Probably due to pandemic. I feel the negativity vibes stronger than 2 years ago.

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      1. equinoxio21 says:

        It’s possible. Though I feel it has begun to grow before that. 5-6 years ago maybe?

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      2. equinoxio21 says:

        PS. When did you say you were planning to go to Singapore? April? Is that still on?

        Liked by 1 person

        1. Kally says:

          Yup. Good memory! Doing the packing now. Our flights are booked on 14 April. Gonna be sad to leave a home that was ours for almost 10 years.

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          1. equinoxio21 says:

            Oh! I had understood you were only visiting your family. So you are going back home for good. That’s nice. I imagine you have found or will be looking for good opportunities In Singapore.
            I understand that you certainly have made a good life in KL, friends. But it’s not that far I’m sure you will be able to keep seeing your friends.
            Congratulations Peng Yu. 🤗


  6. C.A. Post says:

    Came back to this blog after finding an excellent resource on dealing with “toxic people:”
    How to Deal With Toxic People by Dr. Gregory Jantz; good reading and helpful practical advice like your blog!
    ❤️& 🙏, c.a.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Kally says:

      Good read! Thank you for the excellent recommendation, C.A.

      Liked by 1 person

  7. Paul Bowler says:

    Toxic People or colleagues. can be a nightmare in the workplace.. I think if you encounter it its good to remember that old adage that familiarity can breed contempt. Remain professional and keep the toxic person at arms length. You may have to work with them, or interact with them, but you don’t have to entertain or rise to any of their nonsense either.

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    1. Kally says:

      Good advice. I never want to deal with toxic people but unfortunately, they are everywhere.

      Liked by 1 person

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