Are you the type of person who would say yes to everything even if you know you can’t take on these tasks? If your answer is yes, you may be a people pleaser.

While being able to care for your peers is good, if you are only doing it to validate yourself and be accepted, your colleagues will definitely notice and may find it annoying to deal with. Unfortunately, not everyone recognizes the signs of a people pleaser, especially a chronic one. To help you out, here are 8 notable signs telling you you are a chronic people pleaser.

1. It’s Hard To Say No

It is hard to tell others to say no in the workplace or in my personal life. However, for people-pleasers, it is a sin even to consider saying no. It will make them feel sick, and if they know they can’t do it, they will still say yes to help.

2. You Think That People Need You More Than You Need Yourself

When you ask people about their well-being, they only answer simply before turning the discussion to you. If you are a people pleaser, you think your peers are more critical and try your best to help even if your own situation is not good.

3. You Say Sorry For Things You Didn’t Do

Are you someone who tends to apologize for things you didn’t do? If you are, you definitely are a people pleaser. For you, apologizing will keep everyone happy if they feel inadequate, even if they were not responsible for what has occurred.

4. You Are Scared Of Being Seen As A Selfish Person

A people pleaser isn’t a selfish person, but they are scared to be seen as one. If they are considered selfish, it reaffirms their anxiety that they may be one, even if they aren’t indeed a selfish person.

5. You Keep Asking People To Check Your Work

People pleasers will always go to someone to check their work to get feedback and see if they won’t burden the team. While it is not harmful to ask for feedback, constantly asking for it causes you to lose trust in yourself, and others may even see you as a nuisance since they know you can check it yourself.

6. You Don’t Accept Praise Or Credit Easily

If you don’t accept the praise and credit given to you by your team, it is a clear sign that you are a people pleaser. To you, it is best to include the team in your success so nobody feels left out.

7. You Act As If You Are Okay With The People Around You Even If You Are Not

All of us have different faces when we are in different environments. When we meet someone we don’t like, our demeanours will be primarily negative. People pleasers would retain the same personality and act as if they are okay being with people they don’t like.

8. You Do Not Like To Get Involved In Any Conflict

Another sign you are a chronic people pleaser is your reluctance to be involved with any conflict. While it is understandable you want to escape conflicts, you can’t avoid them for long as some conflicts may show you errors you need to correct to improve your work.

If you check these 8 signs, you are a people pleaser. It can be hard to break these habits, given the mental aspects of this behaviour. However, there are ways you can combat the behaviour to protect not just your relationships but also your professional relationships. So, don’t be afraid to ask for help and research what techniques you can use to control your behaviour.

Doing well at your workplace isn’t just about individual performance. It is also about team work and how you work well with others. Here are other articles to help you:
Tips to Work Well With Your Younger Co-Workers
5 Sensitive Topics that You Shouldn’t Discuss in Office
20 Signs Your Coworkers Dislike You

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