How to Be Assertive with Rude Colleagues

Are you having trouble dealing with a colleague who is always rude to you and others? Are they disrupting the workplace because they don’t support the work culture and don’t fear being called out for their behaviour?

Suppose that is a yes; you may be wondering how to deal with your rude colleague without creating additional problems for the rest of the team.

Below are some great ways to be assertive in dealing with your rude colleagues:

1. Call Them Out For Their Behaviour

Whether your rude colleague is targeting you or you see someone bullied by them, don’t hesitate to call them out and point out they are going too far.

Check how they will react before you consider your options. It is possible they will get embarrassed and recognise their mistake or become defensive. If they are going to escalate the issue further, report them to your team leader immediately.

2. Confront Them In Private

Some people tend to be rude towards others as a way for them to cover their weaknesses or show their presence in a group. If you see that this is the case for your rude colleague, speak to them privately and let them know your concerns.

Ask them why they are being rude to others, and make sure you show a strong front so they won’t bully you. If they need help, offer your help or direct them to those who can help them out.

3. Be A Role Model

They say it is best to show others how you want them to treat you by showing it through your actions.

Become a role model for everyone and be professional in dealing with your colleagues and team leaders. When your rude colleague sees your behaviour, they may be inspired to change their ways and even reach out to you to help them change for the better.

4. Seek Mediation

If dealing with your rude colleague on your own doesn’t work, and they continue to be rude, you may need to seek the help of your management to deal with them. Make sure to list each situation when this colleague acted rudely towards you and others during the mediation process.

If the mediation is done correctly, your rude colleague may be reprimanded for their actions and given a warning for their behaviour.

You should clarify to your rude colleague that you won’t tolerate their behaviour if they do it again and list down the standards you want them to follow. After the mediation, make sure that they do their best to change their ways. If they don’t, speak to your team leader to determine the best action to deal with them.

In Other Words

It is challenging to deal with a rude colleague, especially if you are the target of their rude behaviour. The longer you hold off dealing with them, the more difficult it would be to stop them. Before letting your anger get into you, try out the tips we listed above and don’t hesitate to seek help.

Relationships can sometimes be complicated, especially in a workplace where ideas often clashes creating conflicts. Here are some ways to have a cordial relationship with your coworkers:
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10 Ways to Improve Your Workplace Relationships

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9 Comments Add yours

  1. Gregoryno6 says:

    Never underestimate the therapeutic power of a little wax doll and a handful of pins.

    Liked by 2 people

    1. capost2k says:

      Haven’t thought of this option in a loooong time, since I was in Jamaica in 1969! 😅

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    2. Kally says:

      Good point! Thanks for highlighting it.

      Liked by 1 person

  2. Colleagues who are rude to one another just makes what is already difficult to be more and more difficult so strategy you mentioned is effective…

    Liked by 1 person

  3. capost2k says:

    “Whoever desires to love life and see good days,
    let him keep his tongue from evil
    and his lips from speaking deceit;
    let him turn away from evil and do good;
    let him seek peace and pursue it.
    For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous,
    and his ears are open to their prayer.
    But the face of the Lord is against those who do evil.”
    1 Peter 3:10-12
    ❤️&🙏, c.a.

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    1. Kally says:

      Thank you for sharing this quote with us.

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  4. If things don’t change after a while, the best thing to do is walk away and move on. Who wants to work in a hostile work environment, because that is exactly what it will become. Thank you for sharing. Have a wonderful day.

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    1. Kally says:

      That’s true! Thanks for your comment.

      Liked by 1 person

  5. msw blog says:

    I would not suggest meeting with an aggressive/bully employee in private, one should always have a witness so false allegations are not presented. I have found the best way to deal with these individuals is in writing and cc’ing management, and human resources.

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