What are the 5 Most important Negotiation Skills

It is not uncommon to find people who will not share the same views and make it difficult to achieve certain goals at work. What they know and believe in should be followed, and if you want them to work with you, you will need to either agree with them or find ways to support your initiative.

Everyday we negotiate every decision, you will need to learn how to negotiate with these people and find an opening to get them to support your proposal.

To help you practice, here are five critical negotiation skills you need to work on:

#1 Know Your Negotiating Goals

Before you head to any negotiation table, you need to ask yourself what you want to achieve when negotiating with another party. Think about the possible outcomes, the lowest offer you may agree on and your plan B.

Even if you don’t know what will happen during the discussions, having a slight idea of it can help you focus and negotiate better.

#2 Identify Which Negotiation Strategy You Will Use

You will also need to identify the correct negotiation strategy to use to help with the negotiation process.

There are at least 5 major types of negotiation styles or strategies you can choose from: competitive, collaborative, avoiding, compromising and accommodating and each one of these strategies work well for specific situations. Consider the problem before you and determine the strategy that works well for it.

#3 Find The Motivation Of All Parties

The next thing you need to work on is your capability to identify each party’s motivation when going to a negotiating table.

Do they want something from your company? Why did they choose you and not other companies offering the same services as you do?

Ask the other party about their business and why they want to deal with you to understand their goals during your talks.

#4 Act As The Reluctant Party

Whenever negotiations take place, it’s not uncommon to see two parties: an eager one who wishes to get the deal done and a reluctant one who doesn’t want to agree immediately to the agreement.

During the discussions, show that you are a reluctant party through your body language and speech. By doing this, you will force the other party to play the eager party and fall into your mindset.

#5 Respect The Flow

It would be best to remember that discussions have a flow that you shouldn’t rush. If you sound too eager to finish or force people to follow your position, you may not achieve your targets during these talks. Let the flow of the discussions go smoothly as possible, and take your time to understand what the other party is saying before giving your opinion on the matter.


Negotiating with others is not difficult if you know how to create the right environment for all parties to talk. By mastering these five skills above, you will build a good rapport with everyone and let everyone benefit from the agreement. When your bosses see your potential as a good negotiator, you may find yourself getting opportunities that will help you with your career goals.

Negotiations are a part of completing your assignments. So is being a part of a collaborative team. Here are the recommended ways to do it:
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13 Comments Add yours

  1. Good information. Thanks for sharing. Stay safe.

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  2. jminx94 says:

    very well written and thought out.

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  3. Sheree says:

    I look for a win-win situation where both parties get something out of the negotiation.

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  4. #1 is crazy important…know what you need/want


  5. equipsblog says:

    Good info. One time I had to negotiate with an HR type who did not like my choice of word for a conference I wanted to attend. We spent an hour discussing what I really wanted from the training and trying to explain it in various ways, before accidentally discovering a word he would accept. I don’t recall what the word was but I did get to attend the training. He was also recalcitrant about a boxing smoker than the gym wanted to have because it contained the word smoker. He automatically assumed it referred to cigarettes but this time I knew his hangup and could easily substitute the word boxing match instead of smoker.


  6. Lots of good advice, Kally, and it applies equally well to large-scale negotiations (with other companies or departments), or to day-to-day interactions. To both professional life, and to private.

    Sure, there is a bottom threshold – nobody but an overwrought fool would utilize these techniques when discussing with colleagues where to get lunch – but your lessons are nearly universal. Useful tools, both at work, and after.

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    1. Kally says:

      Thank you so much for sharing. Have an awesome weekend!

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    1. Kally says:

      Thank you so much!


  7. Thank you for the great and useful tips, Kally! Have a nice day! xx Michael

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    1. Kally says:

      You’re an awesome dear, Michael.


  8. Years ago I was part of a bargaining team for a teachers union. Your excellent points take me back to the important time of planning and being prepared before showing up for the opening meeting.


  9. #4 seems so counterintuitive, but I can see how it would work in your favor. If the other party has to “win” you over, they’re likely to offer up conditions more favorable to you.


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