Due to the HUGE response, I had the last time on Open Advice: Education Direction, I am going to do the same thing again. I have another reader who emailed me anonymously, seeking everyone’s help here.
I have a reader’s letter below and instead of me giving the advice, YOU dish your advice out. I’ll consolidate my advice with yours and repost this article out next week.
I am currently dating a nice young man but we are having a big issue. I know your blog is not a dating website but somehow I felt perhaps you can help me out here from a different angle.
You see, I am a recent university graduate, top of my cohort, specializing in Economics. While my guy is a car mechanic, working in his field for almost 4 years. He never did go to college, dropping out of school to feed his family when his dad left home. My parents did not like him. They think that he is not suited for me and on occasions, asked him at point blank why is he wasting their daughter’s time. In turn, he went back to night school, taking up sales and accounting courses. Last month, he even quitted his job and join a sales job at my dad’s firm.
Since then, he is a changed man. Gone was the jovial happy man I loved and in place is a man who looks jittery and stressed out all the time. I know he prefers to work with cars rather than to mingle with people. His dream is to own his garage repair shop one day. I know it sounds very simple but that is what I love about him – his simplicity towards life and his passion towards his cars.
My parents’ attitude towards him has improved a little ever since he worked with my dad. I have spoken to him a lot of times about pursuing his passion and we always end up not speaking to each other for days. His reasoning is that as long as I am happy and secure in our future, his loss of dreams are peanuts to him. When I argue that I am not happy now, he’ll retort that I am too young and I should listen to my parents and that when we are in trouble if we can’t even afford to pay off the mortgage on our future house.
Please share this question out to your readers. Help me to convince him that what my parents think does not count in my books and what matters is chasing his dreams. I can’t bear see him being in misery while planning for our future.
Let me thank you all in advance. I can assure you that I’ll be watching and reading all the comments carefully.
Share your advice for Corey below and I’ll consolidate your advice for her and repost this article with the advice on next Friday.
Looking forward to hearing your advice!!