You.

MiddleMe is about you and the 9 hours you spend on your job each day.

More than often, I hear folks lamenting about what they do and their problems at work. I would drop little tips on how they can improve their current situations, nothing much, just my two cents worth. Then I started getting more and more friends, then colleagues approaching me for career advices. Even when I left a company, I still get calls or text from my ex-colleagues seeking a different outlook from theirs. Right up to today, I have ex-colleagues from 4 companies ago still approaching me for career advice. And I’m thinking… Hmm, I must have been doing something right.

I tried googling for a website or a blog that dishes out sound career advices to folks. All I have come across are either very factual statistics articles or blogs written by the Westerners for the Westerners in a Western context. I’m surprise that I could not find something that speaks to a layman like you and me in an Asian society. We are culturally different from the Western context and although everyone has read or heard about advices like “Sky is the limit” or “Be passionate”, it is easier said than done. Everyone is telling us to take the next step but many of us don’t even know what and where is the next step.

I like to help.

MiddleMe is about collaborating all those advices I have given to everyone and hope that it may help you too. Even if you do not have a problem, this website will inspire and enrich you.

MiddleMe is also about helping you to make smart career moves and decisions.

MiddleMe is a platform for sharing. I will be sharing mine and many others experiences and what actions have we taken to get ourselves unstuck in a situation.

Let’s make the 40 hours you spend each week on your desk worth it.

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196 replies on “About MiddleMe

  1. Hello Kally! Nice to meet you on the net. Thanks for everything you are doing. Let’s journey together and make life much better for some people and ourselves of course. As you help others you help yourself in the process knowingly or unknowingly. Have a great day; and a great blogging experience.

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    1. Hi Ngobesing, its great to meet you over here too! Thank you so much for all the kind words and encouragement, it means tremendously to me. This is why I carried on each day to write and to inspire others like your website do as well. I just want to help people see that they are in control of what they do and they can make their workplace a better place. I’ll be dropping by your website! Have an amazing day and a fantastic week ahead! Thank you!

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  2. I really like your blog. There have been times where I’ve looked up motivational articles online about how to enjoy your job and succeed in it, but they’ve always been alienating and full of “fluff words” in my opinion. Your blog is a refreshing space commenting on how we can enjoy our job by breaking it all down into bite size pieces, and showing how we can be happier at work by tackling one aspect of ourselves one at a time.

    Although I work in Australia, I still very much am very Asian and think very Asian-like – prefer to listen to my colleagues first rather than speak out my opinion. Also, at various where I work in Melbourne, there are a lot of meetings and consulting going on before anything gets done. I’m not sure if this is the case in Asia (maybe you can clarify), but I think this is why the pace of work comes across as slower in the Western world.

    It is interesting to read on your about page that you have worked in various industries. Time and time again, I’ve heard many people telling me to stick to one industry or latch on to one industry – hearing that especially from my Chinese-Malaysian parents – and work up to the top there. However, it seems that I am on the same path as you, having worked in academic research, customer service, administration, data analysing, higher education over the last few years. Working in many industries we go gain a wide set of skills and we might find what we love doing. On the other hand, some might see this sort of person as being “floaty” or flaky, flitting from one job to another and that it will be hard to invest in things like property and shares later on.

    I really admire how you manage to get posts up every day. It must take a lot of planning! I used to post once a week and wanted to post more, but at the middle of this year I realised that I wanted to live life more and so decided to cut back to one or two posts a month. And I wanted more time to read other blogs. Plus, I write long posts and don’t want to bore anyone…. Keep up the good work here and I look forward to coming by again 🙂

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    1. Hi Mabel,

      It took me a long time to decide to do this – writing full time. Hence, I could do a post a day. I still have like 30 titles pending for me to write. So far, I have encounter little writer’s block and if I do, nothing a swim in the pool can’t cure it. Take your time to write your post, pace yourself comfortably, rather you do it in your comfort zone than to give it up after it gets too tough. That’s why it took me a long time to decide to write because I don’t want to start something and have to end it just because I have other commitments.

      It all boils down to the company’s culture and how they want to be productive but that doesn’t mean we can’t be individual and change things around the office. For one, I have worked in several companies where they have endless meeting about nothing, I did my silent protest by simply do not turn up at those meetings. I get my work done in time, I exceed my target, I am productive and those meetings have nothing to do with it. In the end, everyone got so used to my absence, they made it a habit to inform me which meetings I really really need to attend because my input is needed. Lol! That’s one way to tackle the problem.

      One thing I learn working with many Caucasians in the company is to always say your piece, be firm, be directive and straight to the point especially if it affect you. Don’t wait until the meeting is over and slink over to the organiser, telling him your view, then the meeting is definitely unproductive. Let you in a little secret, Caucasians appreciate you more when you learn to speak up.

      Sticking to one industries is a thing in the past same as working in a company for 10 years. You want to get more exposure to different companies, different culture and different industries in order to mould your unique selling points in your resume. Of course, I am not telling anyone to job hop every month, do it in moderation. You learn more and you grow more trying different industries. Life is all about experience and growing, don’t you agree? That’s why people travel and take courses.

      Once again, thank you for taking time to write such a long comment! Lol! I look forward to your post twice a month then.

      Do drop by every now and then, even just to say hi! It’s not everyday I get to bump into an Asian girl like yourself 🙂

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      1. That is such a determined attitude you have. I too don’t like to start something and not finish it. When I started my blog, I told myself I’d keep it going, and it still is after three years 🙂 If what we do means a lot to us, chances are we will have more drive to mould it into something better in the long term,

        That is so strong of you to not attend meetings in the past. That’s not a good look here in the places where I’ve worked in Melbourne – Westerners really want to hear everyone’s opinion, as you inferred.

        So true. When we work different jobs, we put ourselves into different situations and that often equates to self-improvement. Change is good as it challenges us and makes us more adaptable.

        Thanks for writing such thoughtful posts about the workforce. This blog is one of a kind 🙂

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        1. Keep on writing. Don’t limit yourself that you have to write two posts a week. Write when you have inspiration because that’s when your words will fly. If I felt I need to struggle to come up with a post, I stop and do something else or write about other topics. I know if I force myself to write just because I need to get a post out, it will never be right and in the end, I am deriving and cheating myself and my audience the true potential of that post.
          I can only be strong if I have strong justifications. Otherwise I only can offer feeble excuses not turning up at meetings. Haha! Thank you for your encouragement and I want you to know I not only appreciate your comments, I enjoy replying to you too! 🙂 you provoke deep thoughts.

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  3. I am unable to work full time as I have chronic anxiety and depression, Nevertheless, I agree with your premise that if you have to work you may as well enjoy it. I volunteer, write on my blog, wrote my first memoir and now have a part-time job writing articles. Finally, I thoroughly enjoy my ‘jobs’ and my health is stable. Excellent blog.

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  4. Kally,

    Like your ideas and your approach. However, I am much older than you and have always preferred to be an independent contractor. To limit your advice to the corporate culture stifles creativity among individuals who may want to work for themselves and maybe employ others.

    I have several tips to offer the individual entrepreneur, if I may.

    First and foremost. Avoid debt until you have secure cash flow. Debt bankrupts start-ups, because it is relentless. Planning costs nothing and provides long-term returns.

    Understand that cash flow is more important than hoarded wealth. Understand that if you enjoy your work, you will make money without trying very hard. Also, you are not limited by performance reviews and office politics, or a rigid salary hierarchy. Work as much as you must to make ends meet, then take the rest of the day off and go fishing. That’s capitalism at the grass roots level.

    Don’t expect to retire, because if you play it right, you won’t want to.

    That’s plenty for now. Is this helpful?

    KCO

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    1. Hi KCO, thank you for offering your advice!! While I do agree that entrepreneurs have freedom of creativity, there are always two sides of the coin. You have listed out the good points of entrepreneurship but not everyone is suitable or like to be a boss of their own. Some like to be followers, some like to work in a bigger corporate environment and some have bigger dreams that making ends meet like wanting to travel more, bigger house or better living standards for their family. So it’s different for everyone, no two needs are the same. I’m very glad that you love the path you have chosen and few people managed to find their passion and stick to it. Thanks for leaving me a comment and provide an insight to your world.

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      1. I can only speak for myself. I have noticed, though, that most employment statistics and advice focus on the corporate or institutional worlds and ignore the self-employed point of view. The lack of “job security” is exhilarating for some people, because they have enormous freedom of movement. Nothing is more valuable to me than my time.

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        1. I have never been self employed until recently so I am tasting the freedom now and savoring it. It is definitely a different feeling than being employed. I wouldn’t say it’s good or bad, just different people have different needs. No matter what career path they chose to head, ultimately the root of it all should be happiness and satisfaction.

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  5. Hello, Kally! Just clicking around the blogosphere and commenting on blogs that I think are fun and interesting, and you’re one of them. October is my birthday month, so consider this an invitation to my month-long birthday party. Hope to see you over at That’s So Jacob sometime! Ciao for now!

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    1. Hello Jacob!!! Happy Birthday!! I definitely will pop by your website soon. Can’t wait to see what you have shared with others! Thanks for leaving me a comment and dropping in on MiddleMe. 🙂

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  6. Hello, Kally! I’ve just recently done my first participation in a blogger award, and I’ve nominated you for it! You’re one of the best bloggers I’ve ever met here, and I believe you deserve another award! I don’t know if you’ve done the same award before, but if you can spare some of your free time to check it out, here’s the link for it: https://toastandteatogether.wordpress.com/2015/11/04/sunshine-blogger-award Thank you and I hope you have an amazing day! 🙂 – Diana

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    1. Thank you so so much for nominating me!! So honored!! I just done the same post on the same award last week! Lol! I shall keep your award close to my heart and remember it always. You’re always so sweet!! Have an amazing week, my friend.

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      1. Haha! I already had a feeling you have done this award before because it’s something that you really deserve to have! 🙂 Thank you so much, and I hope you’re having an amazing week, as well! ❤

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    1. Thank you so much for leaving me a comment and visiting! When you have the time, do read one or two of my posts and you might find something that interest you.

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  7. Hi Kally, what a wonderful blog you have! I haven’t worked in a “proper job” for 2 years. Loads of interviews, a bit of casual work here and there, but nothing real. Was “stuck” for a long time, but life is starting to look up as I find myself again. Look forward to checking out more of your blog. xx

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    1. Hi Miriam!! Welcome to MiddleMe, I’m glad you drop by here. You’ll find a lot of advices here that are pretty interesting and useful. The community here is pretty friendly and tight as well.

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    1. Thank you! I wanted to do this for a very long time, wasn’t sure people would want to read a career centralised website. Most of the folks I know would rather read something lifestyle or hobbies related.

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        1. Thank you!! And your blog is awesome too! I love it on how you give health tips! Food for thought: have to think of doing a post on health tips for busy office workers who did not have time to exercise? I would love to feature such article like that! Just a thought 🙂

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  8. Hi Kally. I’ve nominated you for the Sisterhood of the World Bloggers Award. You don’t need to follow up if you don’t want to but I thought it was really great how you try to help others using your own insights and some actual experiences so I thought I should share it with other bloggers too

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  9. I’ve been browsing online more than 3 hours today, yet I never found any interesting article like yours. It is pretty worth enough for me. In my view, if all site owners and bloggers made good content as you did, the internet will be much more useful than ever before.

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  10. What a profoundly impressive blog. You are indeed wise beyond your years – something that doesn’t happen by accident. I wish I had more time to keep reading but some kind of glitch won’t allow me to ‘like’ today. I must discover why. Happy Blogging, Kally!

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      1. Kally, there are some unique challenges within the field of writing, as you probably know. I’d be interested in your career advice on negotiating content with SMEs and grappling with the ethics of writing as someone else; that is to say I experienced discomfort with ghost writing a while back and it felt ethically awkward. Maybe you’ve addressed this in previous blog posts.
        Anyway, I like your blog theme of “career/work” advice and musings. Thanks.

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  11. This is quite a goal you have set yourself.
    Let me know if I can be of any help.
    (Being french, raised in asia and africa and grad school in the US, I know what you mean about “cultural” tidbits such as “the sky is the limit”)
    Again, let me know if I can be of any help.
    Be good.
    (Or bad)
    😉

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  12. Hi Kally,

    I got to your blog through your liking my comment on another blog – thank you. I’ve liked what I’ve read here so far, and would like to come back soon and read more.

    All the best in your blogging journey.

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  13. Hi Kally,

    I got to know your site from your liking a comment I made in another blog – thank you. I’ve liked what I’ve read here so far, and hope to keep coming back for more.

    All the best in your blogging journey,

    Patrick

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  14. You have a pawsome blog, Kally, and what a kind, lovely person you are. I always make sure that my 40 hours on the desk are worth it…*mumbles* and the other hours on the couch too. Happy Blogging my furriend and Pawkisses for a wonderful day. Sincerley, Littleme…Binky 🙂 ❤ ❤

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  15. Thank you soooo much for stopping by at my blog and liking so many posts, Kally!!!:) You´ve created a wonderful blog and I´m totally looking forward to read your posts – future and past ones as well! Have a great week, Sarah:)

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