Hi Kally & Readers,
I am 38 years old this year, and for many years I have been working as a nursing assistant in Boston. As much as I love my job, I feel I have outgrown my job. I have been feeling this way since last year, and I’m thinking of pursuing my interest and passion in arts.
I have always had a keen interest in theatre management, and I volunteer in my community in organising events and plays. I have also directed in a couple of small school plays and enjoy myself tremendously. Out of sheer luck, someone from a pretty famous theatre company saw one of my plays and approached me during Thanksgiving and asked if I am interested in pursuing further.
I am interested, but I am afraid as well. What if I fail? I am at the mid of my life right now and have a stable income to feed my small family. I have an ageing mother and am a single mother to my two young children. I don’t know should I dare to risk it.
Being in the arts industry might not pay as well as I am right now and it might take me away from my family as I will be required to travel all over the country. If I am young and single with no worries in the world, I’ll definitely take up this job, but as it is my situation, I don’t know what to do. My heart says yes, and my head says no.
I would love to hear your take on this matter.
Thank you for writing to me.
I may not be well versed in the line of Arts, but I believe you have passion and talent in theatre management. Otherwise, opportunities will not knock on your door just like the one offered to you right now.
I say follow your heart where it leads to. You are not irrational, and you know you have thought this through, at least enough to put it in writing to me. As for financial wise, there are arrangements you can explore.
One suggestion is that you can talk to the medical facilities you work at to come up with a year sabbatical leave. Another suggestion is to take on a part-time job as a supplement while you pursue your dream job. You can check if your workplace can have you on a part time basis.
Age has nothing to do with following your dreams, but I do understand that you want to approach this carefully and at a minimal risk. Ask yourself “Will you regret if you did not take up this offer?” The right answer will come to you as clear as day. As much as I agree with you that we all have to make certain sacrifices for our family, this might be the one decision that you have to be selfish and love yourself.
If this is truly your dream, remember life is all about choices and life is short. You will want the same for your children – to follow their hearts.