I have been a loyal reader from the start of MiddleMe and I must say you are doing a great job. I always make sure I keep a lookout for my email notification so I can jump immediately to read your posts. I never knew I need to write in and be the one asking you for advice but I’m kinda of out of my wits here.
I have a manager and I love her to bits, we are colleagues first, besties second. Never have it come between our work and our friendship during our three years term. Now, it is on the brink of ruins. Last month, she had a heated argument with our big boss and she walked out of his office, slamming the door. As she relate the story to me, I can see it is of no one’s fault, it is more like a clashing of two very different opinions. She can be extremely opinionated and stubborn at times but all for a good cause. Last week, she tendered her resignation and she asked me to do the same. Her exact words “How can you even want to work for such a stupid and cruel organization? Even for a stupider boss?”
I would love to have her guts and throw in my letter but I am still paying for my student loan and staying in the company’s staff lodging (which saves me a lot of money!). The benefits that comes with my job doesn’t replicate easily in another company and I don’t hate my job. She’s different, she comes from a silver spoon family background and her husband is a surgeon. When I talk to her about this, she said I can move in with her and she’ll cover the student loan for me until I find another job, she even will pay for my food!
Anyone would have taken her generosity but I don’t feel comfortable doing so. I don’t want to lose our friendship! Help, please?
Firstly, thank you so much for your support. It means a lot to me to have your continuous support and readership. This is a form of encouragement and incentive to push me on to produce greater and better articles.
I’m sure you have spoken to your friend cum your manager and set her straight. Have one last talk with her on how you don’t want to impose your friendship. I’m sure she don’t mind that you burden her financially in the short run however, in this economy, you are sensible not to want to caught in between kindness and jobless.
Let her know that you value her friendship too much to let her down by not leaving the job yet you need to hold on to your job for the sake of financial means. Illustrate to her that you are caught in a difficult situation. I am sure if she truly treat you as a friend and value your friendship, she’ll never put you and your friendship in a spot.
Finally, take a stand. If you don’t feel comfortable, don’t do it. Ultimately, you are responsible for your own actions and you have to face up to the consequences that follows, not her, whatever she coerce you to do.
I wish you all the best and please do update me of your situation and let me know if it sort itself out. Until then, take care!!