Sharing the above videos is one of my favourite songs in the 90s. No, I’m not about to do a song review here so rest your bated breath. However, catching the song over the airwaves does bring back a thought, though.

Have you wish you could have turned back time in your life, particularly in your career? Would you have made a different choice in your career path if you could?

A few months ago, during our rare reunion, I asked these questions to a long time friend Jackie and she says she’s sorry that she didn’t follow her dream as a start-up designer and she jumped at the first chance making money at real estates. It’s good money, though, putting her kids through college and pay the bills, but she haven’t been truly satisfied, just going through the motions of work. So if she could turn back time, she’ll stick on being a designer and perhaps to take on another part-time job to fulfill the bills instead of letting her dreams slipped her away.

But it’s not too late, is it?

Perhaps she couldn’t compete with the young fresh graduates with their new fresh outlook into the new corporate world. Perhaps she might not have the endless energy to work 18hours straight like a youngster. Perhaps she have lost track of the latest trends and not as intuitive as the young eager faces. Perhaps there are just too many perhaps.

The world is so huge, there is always a market for everyone no matter how niche your passion is. Big enough room for everyone and more. So she’s not young anymore but she has the worldly experiences to make up for it. So she needs her sleep more than the young ones but she makes up by effectively managing her time. So she is lost in the recent trends, but that’s not the end of the world, she could read up and brush up the latest trends easily.

The point here in bringing up is that don’t live your life with regrets, if there is still a breath in you, change the course of the ship.

Lead the change.

We have come across people who changed their successful careers midway from the corporate lawyer to a baker or an accountant who quit her job to set up her own restaurant. It is all possible, with the only enemy being your excuses.

Yes, a change could be terrifying but, what’s more, frightening is instead of you controlling and deciding the change, you are forced to change due to circumstances or market trend. You’re forced to change otherwise you are out of job. We have all seen it during the era of companies switching from faxes to emails, desk phones to VOIP phones, long overseas calls to long Skype calls, face to face meetings to teleconferencing. Now even one don’t have to commute to work to get work done, you just to open your laptop in your pajamas or wake up and grab your mobile, scrolling through your emails in bed; and you are already clocking the hours at work. No longer you are dealing with an English speaking voice but you probably are dealing with someone with different accent trying to get his message across with his smattering English in Asia, Africa, all over the globe. It can be fascinating for businesses but scary and overwhelming for you.

So grab the chance to change according to your preference, your own ways in your own time before change grabs you and forces you to adapt. In the corporate world, we have one cruel saying “Sorry, honey. It’s nothing personal, it’s just business.” And no one wants to hear that especially when you have mortgage to pay, people to feed and lifestyle to upkeep.

Sad but welcome to the realistic world.

PS. I’m delighted to report that Jackie has taken my advice and enrolled herself in a designing short course. She has also started internship on a weekend basis with one of the smaller fashion design house. Her comments, “I may be the oldest in the class and the newest member in the design industry, but it all doesn’t matter because, at the end of the day, it’s not about getting to the top so much as to learning new things and following my desires. That is more fulfilling than a bigger house, a better car or a more luxurious holiday.”

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49 replies on “Turn Back Time

  1. This was great, so positive; there’s nothing to fear in changing careers; of course transition is difficult, uncomfortable, etc. But the money in your pocket means nothing if you’re not doing something you love. Beautiful post.

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  2. “Youโ€™re forced to change otherwise you are out of job” This phrase resonated with me a lot. Times are always changing, and so is the needs of society and the way we communicate and do business with each other. Doing a job we don’t like, chances are it will eat us from the inside and ultimately that is self-destructive. I don’t think I will turn back time (great song, love it) because I won’t be where I am today with the lessons I’ve learnt ๐Ÿ™‚

    I will be out of a job soon, certainly on job hunting right now and it is both a scary and exciting time ๐Ÿ™‚

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    1. So what are you plans next? Are you going back to the same field? I’m sure you’ll be fine, given that you are hardworking, determined and talented, you’ll land yourself a job anytime!

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      1. I have been looking for jobs over the last month or so. Open to any field that can use my skills. Been having quite a few phone interviews and trips to see employers face-to-face. Hectic, especially when I am still working a job I love. So, it’s all very positive at the moment!

        Initially I’ve thought of moving states in Australia, but if so writing my book would take a back seat. So, we’ll see how it all pans out ๐Ÿ™‚

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        1. Well, all the best to you!! Job hunting can be extremely deflating and exhilarating at the same time. Just don’t give up, if you don’t get the job perhaps it’s because there are better job waiting for you. ๐Ÿ™‚

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  3. NEVER look back and wonder what if? In the time that takes, you will miss out on what lies ahead. Do we make mistakes? Of course. But those mistakes help to define us and to make us who we are. Glance back occasionally, but never linger there and never wish things had been different, because in doing so, you devalue the person you already are.

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      1. It is a very easy award to work onas I put no pressure except to hilite yourself and me in the post and do what I did, do not even mention names in the posts. Just go the their page and give them the awards with the simple rules to link back to both of us.:)

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  4. Kally, thanks for the post on change. If a person feels in their heart change is something they want to do, they better go for it. Living with what if can make life very miserable and that’s what happens when we get older. What if, what if, what if in your head over and over.

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  5. I lay every word I have to say about this topic on your alter.. you smashed this well.. thanks for sharing, I completely relate to this; not allowing what you are really good at slip away because of the initial craze for fiscal strength.. How long can a man stay in a place that makes him unhappy? Not too long I guess.
    Great post Kally ๐Ÿ˜‰

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    1. Thank you! I’m really glad you like this post and can relate to this. Sometimes I meet friends who are stuck in the timezone, not willing to move forward but yet moan about lost opportunities in their careers.

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      1. Well! face book is my bridge to my family and some old friends from Chinese yahoo blog! I didn’t you have face book too! You should be one of my face book family too! Would you like to take me as one of you of yours?

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  6. I’ve heard it said that age is a number, but at no other moment in history can we more effectively move past the artificial constraints imposed on us ageism. Most people who have only interacted with me only on the internet tell that they would never have guessed that I’m soooo old when I tell them my body’s age.

    But I’m not sooo old…On the internet I’m whatever age I am in the moment and most people are more more disciplined, more creative, and more able to genuinely appreciate life and other people as they get older than they allow themselves to be.

    We must leave this trap of believing that our best years are between the ages of 16 and thirty.

    It’s not true.

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    1. It’s definitely not true. I believe the best time of our lives are the times we treasure and leave beautiful memories. Great to see you here, Rob!! Thanks for dropping by. ๐Ÿ™‚

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