Relocating myself

I wanted to share this topic for a very long time even longer than MiddleMe was set up because I had so many people asking me why I chose to move away when I have everything. To give you the context: I was doing extremely well at work, I have a fantastic team who loves me and the feeling is mutual, I have a great bunch of friends and loved ones back home. I’m in a safe country with great career opportunities and growth and I’ll doing pretty well for myself among my peers. I’m staying with my family with all my bills, my housework and my meals all taken care of.

I had it all, so why do I move away?

Challenges
When an opportunity opens itself to me to move to a strange new country, the adventurous side of me couldn’t refuse. I want to push myself to the limits in my career and see how far I can go without the environment I’m familiar with. I want to be the pioneer among my peers to explore the depths of unknown and perhaps conquer it.

apple-758334_640Learning ExperienceΒ 
This creates a whole new world in my career and personal life that I have not been exposed of and it is truly a lesson for me. Whether it is mingling with the locals and understanding how they work or me learning about myself for the first time. You see, personally, I’m always someone’s daughter, friend, sister but when I’m all alone there, I’m thrown into only myself. Yes, I took a deep breath and a big leap by moving there, not knowing anyone except perhaps a few of my colleagues who were going with me.

notes-514998_640Complacent
I felt I was already there so I shouldn’t fix what ain’t broken but somehow in my heart, I know that is not right. I’m still young with many years ahead of me. I’m getting too comfortable where I am and I wasn’t challenging myself enough. People around me kept saying I shouldn’t be greedy, I should be contented of what I already have and achieved, but it’s not about greed. It’s more about stretching my limits and see how far I can go. It’s about proving myself (and my family), I can survive on my own.

SurvivalΒ 
In a strange country where I do not have friends and a whole lot of responsibilities to myself and my company who gave me this opportunity, I need to do more than merely exist. I need to exceed in a lot of people’s expectations and more. People who believed in me and present me the opportunity to relocate, I’ll need to prove them that they were right to choose me. People who didn’t think ill make it, I’ll need to prove them they were wrong.

I learned to open up my eyes a little more and my heart a little more to understand and accept the local’s culture. I learned to ask for help when I needed to set up my broadband so I’ll have the internet. I learned to force myself to read, write and reply everything in Chinese when back home, I’m so used to using English all the time. I learned to fix a blown lightbulb, a leaky pipe and cracks along my kitchen sink, a luxury I took for granted when I was back home because all I have to do is wait for dad to do all this. I fixed my own meal, order my own groceries and cleaned my own place, another luxury I relied on my mum.

file0001249487154Maturing even moreΒ 
In Singapore, we often take safety for granted so much so our government had to advocate and advertise “Low Crime doesn’t mean No Crime”. To give you an extreme but a usual sight in Singapore, we actually place our bags, mobile phones and even wallets on the McDonald’s table to reserve our seats before going to the counter to queue and place the order. And yes, 90% of the time, when we returned with our tray of food, the items are still there untouched. I used to be guilty of that.

No way I can do that in China. Whatever I put there will be gone in an instant! I need to keep my bags zipped all the time and have my backpack in front of me when I moved to a crowded area. I need to remove my earphones when I’m crossing the street in order to be alert of the oncoming traffic. I know it’s common in other countries but in Singapore, pedestrians have the way of right.

file0002033475306Cultural Expose
I now see through the eyes of a local and accepted their differences. In fact, now that I’m away, I missed their differences. Recently when I went back to Shanghai after leaving 6 months, I actually teared a little when I reached the airport because I felt I was coming back to a place I called home for two years. I watched the movies they watched, I sang the songs they sing, I ate like a local, I cursed in their slangs (by the way, they find it amusing when I did that) and the only thing I haven’t done is to spit the way they did.

Got to be humble
Yes, I may have gone there as a manager, however, when you’re in a foreign land, it’ll do a lot of good by eating the humble pie rather than strut your way into the office, thinking that you are bigger than them. That’s not going to earn you any respect and in fact, people will dislike you for your arrogance. In the first place, they are already wary of you being someone whose culture they probably couldn’t or haven’t phantom so by acting all big boss, you’ll just drive their defense up.

Nice on Paper
After all the above positive attributes, one thing that is most realistic one of all is how nice it sits on my CV, giving me an edge through the doors of Human Resources. What better way to prove that you are adaptable to new changes, gearing for challenges and constantly tries to improve yourself than to let the HR knows you have relocation experiences.

Would you give it all up and move to another place / state / country for the sake of your career? Share with us your thoughts below.

Advertisement

99 Comments Add yours

  1. Miriam says:

    It’s much harder when you have a family but I think if I was single and an opportunity arose I would grab it and I would move. Life’s too short not to make the most of new places, people and experiences.

    Liked by 4 people

    1. Kally says:

      Well, it really depends. I have had friends who moved with their whole family. Ultimately, you have to decide for the family as a whole is it good for them. I guess it boils down heavily on the relocation package that the company offers.

      Liked by 1 person

      1. Miriam says:

        Of course. It depends on what stage of life you’re at, how old the kids are, how it will affect their schooling, so many things. But yes I’m sure there are many people who relocate quite successfully and make it work for everyone, particularly if the relocation package is attractive.

        Liked by 2 people

        1. Kally says:

          There are a lot of factors one need to take into serious considerations before making the decision to move. Its one decision that can change the course of your life.

          Liked by 2 people

  2. Sha'Tara says:

    Ahh… moving to better a career, way past my time, but in the day? Did it a few times and each time is a shock to the system; makes you get on the learning curve faster, jogs parts of the brain that have almost atrophied from little change. I think deep inside, beyond and below the fear, we all want to sample a new way of life. It’s the greatest adventure and you get to earn your way through, strengthening your sense of self-reliance. Yes, agree with you totally.

    Liked by 3 people

    1. Kally says:

      Wow! You’re a traveler like myself. Do share the countries you have worked in. I am always fascinated by people who relocate out of their country for work.

      Like

  3. Parveen Sabharwal says:

    Certainly a big yes Once we are into job and look for moving up the ladder in career, relocation is the first challenge which one should accept gracefully. The nature of working conditions, Govt policies, and several others factors make you wiser and confident.

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Kally says:

      Ah, I always know that you are the brave one. Never doubt for once you won’t take the leap!

      Liked by 2 people

      1. Parveen Sabharwal says:

        Thanks for the encouraging words Kally

        Liked by 1 person

  4. Well done for branching out and taking a bold step into the unknown! Few people would have had the audacity to do such a thing! Keep on growing and making big moves.

    Liked by 3 people

    1. Kally says:

      Thank you so much for your acknowledgement!! And welcome to MiddleMe!

      Like

  5. thia licona says:

    O Kally, Kally! How real you are! In a different setup, I can totally identify with your experience one hundred percent! HaHa! Only you are young but, I was not when my Master chose to relocate me to this region of the world–talking about about an adventure?

    A seven years adventure so far! Amazing adventure at that! At least you learned & spoke their language–my tongue is not able to grasp this unique language–that in itself has been the adventure of my life by my Father’s side.

    Only the language of His love has avail me to communicate with these beautiful locals big time! Welcome! Welcome! they all welcome my smiling wrinkle face and tell me how beautiful I am! Haha! I look in the mirror & think, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder not in my eyes! I am sure that reading my first book is giving you a good idea of what I mean.

    Right now I am at the peak of the mountain looking down at the valley of death that we all must travel on. I am not only observing but also learning even more every day so.

    What a joy it is meeting you! Thanks, my beautiful young friend. πŸ™‚

    Liked by 3 people

    1. Kally says:

      And its my pleasure in meeting you, Thia. Thank you for your blessings everyday.

      Like

      1. thia licona says:

        Good news! My super blog is now working full force! Check it out and tell me a quick first impression please! http://flowersfromonhigh.nowistime.com/ the upper nav is still not working but, the bottom one does. Later!

        Like

        1. Kally says:

          Wow! You’ve been hard at work, dear friend. Yep, some of the links does not work yet and some of the images does take some time to load. I love it!

          Like

          1. thia licona says:

            Ah! I missed your comment! I’m like your follower blogger MixBlog–Leland. I tell you? He is the best of them all bloggers, ’cause, like myself, he’s got age & experience over you all young beauties.
            He found me in your blog. He is now following me and I him. Fun, fun, fun. But like him, I am & has been passionate about computer tinkering for as long as he has.
            Anyhow, this new blog is a product of many months tinkering with my WordPress, Dreamweaver, Filezilla, Photoshop, Internet suppliers and my servers.
            So, the final product is yet to come. For I am still wondering why or where is the hold on my links–a confused net, that’s all in the working.
            Conclusion, when all gets to my top? I crash in bed and died for a couple or more hours. Wake up? Surprise–a comment from my Kally! Haha! What a wonderful development this is! πŸ™‚

            Liked by 1 person

          2. Kally says:

            I do hope your website gets all up and ready 100%!! I’m so glad that Leland has found you through here. Good reads are meant to be shared everywhere!

            Like

          3. thia licona says:

            Hi, I just finished fixing things up, at least in the front page. All links work now. Power From On High uploads with cover & all. Hope you give it another try, time permitted. http://flowersfromonhigh.nowistime.com/ πŸ™‚

            Liked by 1 person

          4. Kally says:

            Hi Thia, when I click Home button at the top bar, it gives me an internal error message. You might also want to look at your top banner, seems to be out of alignment compare to the rest of the page. Just my opinion! πŸ™‚

            Like

          5. thia licona says:

            I see the problem. On my way to fix it. Thanks for letting me know. Don’t know about the banner. Maybe a new one will do. Thanks πŸ™‚

            Liked by 1 person

          6. Kally says:

            You’re most welcome, my dear.

            Like

          7. thia licona says:

            Hope is fixed! Did & did but the front page is good. Some work in the pages tomorrow. It’s a pretty unique blog, eh? πŸ™‚ Let me know. PFOH looks good cover & all.
            http://flowersfromonhigh.nowistime.com/index.html

            Liked by 1 person

          8. Kally says:

            Yes! It’s fixed!! Yay!! You might want to think about having a mobile version as well since everyone is reading from their mobile phones and iPad. Just an idea!! πŸ™‚

            Like

          9. thia licona says:

            Hi Kally, I’m really proud of the blog–it’s a Dreamweaver site that I have been working on for a while.
            In the process I wound up with 3 different versions of it each version in different folders but with the same index file. Phew! Talking about a mess to unrabble! I had to work hard at straightening out all those files! But at least the front page is set. I will be posting daily on it–so check it out. And thanks again for helping me out. πŸ™‚

            Liked by 1 person

          10. Kally says:

            And I’m really proud of you for doing this!! Well done!

            Like

          11. thia licona says:

            Yes, I have to do that, that’s the thing to do, been knowing about it for a while. Don’t know why the procrastination?
            Even so, away with procrastination! Dreamweaver 2014 is urging me to get to work on it!
            And now the renown Kally joins the clamoring?
            I’ll tell Leland all about! You all trying to get us respectable seniors to join the iPad generation?
            Well, either sink or swim. We seniors are good swimmers, Mobile? iPad here I come! Maybe before the holidays! HaHa! πŸ™‚ love u!

            Liked by 1 person

          12. Kally says:

            Haha! Love you too, Thia!! I’m getting more iPad readers to read your website!

            Like

          13. thia licona says:

            That’s my girl! I think our good friend Leland is taking a break or don’t know why I have not heard from him?
            I’m working on that responsive site needed for iPads and such. I just started the tutorial again–I have done that number before, so, I’ll try it again. Practice makes perfect as you know it. πŸ™‚

            Liked by 1 person

  6. I have never lived outside the US, yet! but I have packed up and moved from one state to another twice for my job. I think it’s a good thing, a wonderful learning and growth experience.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Kally says:

      From state to state is a big move to me too! Although the language is the same, I wouldn’t say the culture or the accent or even the food can be different, according to one of my friend who moved from California to Washington. She misses the sun.

      Like

      1. It is a big move and it was a bit scary for all the reasons that you spoke of. For me though there was only a small culutral change to deal with and from one side of the country to another there was some language differences in the use of slang. It was a great experience. I wish more people were open enough to see that getting too comfortable kills your spirit a little. You have to be willing to take a risk. If it doesn’t work you try again!

        Liked by 2 people

        1. Kally says:

          I have the same wish too. Especially when I see my friends around me getting too complacent. Its okay if you are truly satisfied and contented, its a different story where one moan and whine all the time but yet does not take action to task.

          Like

  7. tardeeksha says:

    I kinda share same dream….😊😊

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Kally says:

      Maybe one day, an opportunity will open up to you as it did to me. Just be ready when that day comes.

      Liked by 1 person

  8. Mann Kaundal says:

    Relocation: A step forward in your life. I liked your post could relate to it. I have relocated a few times; for study and work however never outside my country. New place brings new challenges and make you a different (and hopefully better) person too ;). Different kind of people with myriad cultures teach you a lot and you come face to face with a side of YOU, undiscovered before.

    Liked by 2 people

  9. bacardi gold says:

    Enlightening! When my sister came to Singapore she noticed that no one eats bubblegum and no one spits on the streets.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Kally says:

      Hahaa! Because all of us obeyed the law too much.

      Liked by 1 person

  10. BunKaryudo says:

    I admire your adventurous spirit, Kally. I have a feeling that you are unlikely to be someone who ever finds herself stuck in a rut.

    Liked by 1 person

  11. Kevin says:

    Wow. Great post and wonderful writing. Moving to a new country can be an exciting and also a scary experience at the same time. I applaud and commend you on your courage Kally. πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘

    Liked by 3 people

    1. Kally says:

      Thanks a lot, Kevin!! It is very scary to move out of my comfort zone.

      Liked by 1 person

      1. Kevin says:

        I understand completely.

        Liked by 1 person

  12. jenanita01 says:

    If that’s what my instinct dictated, I would. Even now, at the great age of 71, I feel the need for pastures new sometimes, and it’s getting harder to ignore. Loving your determination, Kally…

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Kally says:

      Thanks! The learners always crave challenging themselves, don’t they? Haha.

      Liked by 1 person

      1. jenanita01 says:

        the only way forward, really…

        Liked by 1 person

  13. Good luck and stay happy πŸ™‚

    Liked by 3 people

  14. agenda19892010 says:

    πŸ’š

    Like

  15. Elisabet says:

    Wow, your courage! It must have been overwhelming at first to be so alone. Good luck! Have a winderful new beginning.

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Kally says:

      Yes, it was. I relocate twice in my life and each time was an eye opening experience.

      Like

  16. I would absolutely give it all up – I’m talkin’ right now, today. I’d pick up and start over somewhere else. I have the desire; I simply lack a catalyst. Super happy for you at accomplishing something so awesome!

    Liked by 4 people

  17. Bea dM says:

    One of the things that was probably positive for you was moving away from where you were being taken care of by your own family – that’s a huge step in really becoming independent. I never had what you’d call a career with any kind of ladder to climb, so my moves were not based on jobs. The only time I did have an “offer I couldn’t refuse” – to go back to the USA as an assistant professor – I did refuse, ’cause I’d already moved from country to country one too many times πŸ™‚

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Kally says:

      From your sentence, I sense a wary of moving too many times. I know how you feel, each time I moved away, a part of me is left behind. Kinda tiring.

      Liked by 1 person

      1. Bea dM says:

        but keep doing it while you’re still young πŸ™‚

        Liked by 1 person

  18. agenda19892010 says:

    🌹

    Liked by 1 person

  19. Relocating is a big thing in anyone’s life. A married person has a lot more to consider when relocating than a single person. Kally, you are more apt to adapt to relocating than any other person.You have a personality that makes people stop talking when they see you come into the room. As long as you are relocating on this planet I am very confident that you will do very well. Please do not relocate to someplace like Mars because this world needs people like you right here.

    My relocating days are all over. I will not need to rent a truck when I leave here. I will be riding in the back of a long vehicle, maybe I will ask to have the lid left open with a mirror on it so I can see whats going on.

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Kally says:

      Thanks for the vote of confidence! Don’t worry, I won’t move to Mars, Planet Earth still fascinates me plenty. Haha! Everyone bound to ride the long vehicle once in their lifetime, hopefully it is not end of the story but a beginning of a new chapter.

      Like

  20. Relocating is a big thing in anyone’s life. A married person has a lot more to consider when relocating than a single person. Kally, you are more apt to adapt to relocating than any other people. You have personality that makes people stop talking when they see you come into the room. As long as you are relocating on this planet I am very confident that you will do very well. Please do not relocate to someplace like Mars because this world needs people like you right here.

    My relocating days are all over. I will not need to rent a truck when I leave here. I will be riding in the back of a long vehicle, maybe I will ask to have the lid left open with a mirror on it so I can see whats going on.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. thia licona says:

      Ha ha ha! That’s my Leland! Only you could have come with such suggestion! Mars? Why not the moon? I just woke up, only to find Kally’s encouraging comments and your outlandish ones! ha ha! What a treat? I think I’ll write about it! love u all! πŸ™‚

      Liked by 1 person

  21. Things become a bit different ( and difficult too) when you are married and have a kid…

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Kally says:

      I agree. There are a lot more to consider when you are not alone. Kids and family should always take priority in major decision such as relocation.

      Liked by 1 person

  22. jessamayann says:

    Thanks for sharing, Kally!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Kally says:

      Most Welcome!! Glad you enjoy it.

      Liked by 1 person

  23. magarisa says:

    I can relate to you very well, as I’ve chosen to move to different countries/places numerous times during my adult life. I’ve lived and worked in Asia, North America, and Europe (including the UK), as one of my biggest goals is to live in a different country every few years. That’s my favourite way to get out of my comfort zone. As you must know from experience, it’s not all fun and games (it can be frustrating and painful at times), but living in a new place broadens your perspective and accelerates your personal growth. Thank you for sharing!

    Liked by 2 people

  24. magarisa says:

    Forgot to mention South America…moved so many times that I’m losing track! πŸ˜‰

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Kally says:

      Haha! Well worthy traveler! I believe there are many sacrifices you made to achieve this and I do agree that you learnt a lot more from acquiring different perspectives from different parts of the world. Kudos to you! Not many of us can do it, I don’t believe I can keep on relocating non stop.

      Liked by 1 person

  25. nugget59 says:

    I think you will do well wherever you go. You seem to have the right sense of yourself and the world around you. Have fun in all your adventures. It’s always interesting to read what you write.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Kally says:

      Thanks so much!! I am having fun. Its funny how 10 years ago, I didn’t think I would ever have a chance to relocate and suddenly within 3 years, I did it twice!

      Liked by 1 person

  26. I have moved overseas twice – and those were two of the most important things I ever did. I definitely get why one does so!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Kally says:

      It does change your life, doesn’t it? Somehow, it matures me whenever I moved. Does it to you too?

      Liked by 1 person

  27. dougstuber says:

    So many times the challenge of relocating is not just the difficulty of fitting into a new culture, or the hardship of leaving the comfort of one’s own shelter, but the fact that outsiders are often used as wage slaves in their adopted countries. Few warnings of this are available, so here’s one.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Kally says:

      Oh yes, I’m actually writing the cons of relocation. So watch out for the article. πŸ™‚

      Like

  28. chattykerry says:

    This is an excellent blog, Kally, and the move is excellent for your work and soul. We moved to Cairo in Egypt and it was a hard location. Nonetheless, we learned so much about life, the things we take for granted in the richer nations and about ourselves. Then we moved the the US, my place of birth, and started all over again. Who knows what will happen in 2016. Hope it is wonderful for you. K xx

    Like

    1. Kally says:

      Ah.. It is hard to live in Cairo, I have heard about stories from my friends who have relocated there in the past. Just the food and the culture along is…interesting but enough to make you miss home even more!! Bravo for taking such a courageous step.

      Liked by 1 person

  29. wanderlusterin says:

    Thanks for stopping by my blog! I empathize so much with this post, as the reasons you listed are the very reasons I decided to move across the country for college. Hope all is well in your new environment!

    Like

  30. carlalouise89 says:

    Probably! We “gave it up” and moved for my husband’s career (he got a massive promotion) so it was worth it. I imagine we’d do the same if it was me.

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Kally says:

      There will always be “what ifs” in life, we all try not to dwell on the maybes and work on what we already have. Happy new year!

      Liked by 1 person

      1. carlalouise89 says:

        Thank you!! Happy New Year to you, too!!

        Liked by 1 person

  31. Khris says:

    Kally, you write very well! Your post is filled with wisdom and experience. Got lots of insights. Moving out of our comfort zone is an opportunity to experience and learn new things. New adventure! Thanks! : )

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Kally says:

      Thank you so much for your compliments. Your words made me believe in myself and push myself to produce better work than before!

      Liked by 1 person

      1. Khris says:

        You’re already great! : )

        Liked by 1 person

  32. vinneve says:

    I relocated because so my son and I can follow my husband & finally be a family. I did have a good career too in my home country NZ but I have to give it up. Please check out the old post on my blog when you have time thanks. πŸ™‚

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Kally says:

      Sure I will!!

      Like

    2. Kally says:

      Your life sounds very similar to mine right now. Haha.

      Like

      1. vinneve says:

        Yes it is an interesting life right? πŸ™‚

        Liked by 1 person

        1. Kally says:

          Interesting but frustrating at the same time.. Haha!

          Like

  33. For a fixed period of time, I have moved to and lived in another country for my career and for the sake of our children. While each time was a great learning experience, I was happy to return home again. We were forever changed by our experiences and have become more tolerant individuals. Great post.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Kally says:

      Thank you and kudos to your bravery. I know that it is never easy to uproot yourself to move, never easy for you, never easy for your family.

      Liked by 1 person

      1. Knowing it was only for one year each time helped, but you are correct that it is not easy.

        Liked by 1 person

Share Your Thoughts Here

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s