When I received emails from all walks of life seeking my opinions on their issues, one thing stuck me the most is the confidence level of the writer. Like there are many things in life to be grateful of, there are many ways to boost up your confidence level and renew the faith in yourself. Other than having passion, confidence is something that will help you a lot in bringing your work to a higher level.
So how do you fake confidence, bad news is that you can’t. Just like you can’t fake passion. It comes within you, your heart. But…the good news is that you can increase confidence with the below easy steps:
Believe that you matter to the world. You can change the world. Small steps maybe but not impossible. Believe in yourself when nobody believe in you because you owe it to yourself and no one else.
Set a tiny goal for yourself everyday, something you can achieve easily, something within your control. The goal can be “I want to walk for 15 minutes after lunch today.” to “I want to complete that article by hook or crook today.” to “I want to have a heart-to-heart talk with at least one of my team members today.”
Use positive adjectives in your sentences. Reduce words like ‘can’t’, ‘won’t’ or ‘don’t’. So instead of “I don’t have time to do this.” change it to “I might have time to do this if I try.” or “I shall find time to do this even if it’s not today.”
Surround yourself with love
Hang out with people you adore and who adore you. Display a photo of your kid hugging you on your work desk. Dress in your favorite colors. Change your desktop picture to a photo of your pet. Text 10 friends to let them know you missed them and one (or more) bound to respond back they miss you too! We all need reminders that we are loved and treasured.
I believe the quickest and easiest way to perk oneself up is to treat yourself to something delightful yet doesn’t pinch your wallet. Like a stalk of sunflower, a 10 minutes shoulder rub by your partner, a quick hair trim, a new book, the chocolate cupcake in your cafeteria, the frappé from Starbucks (with whipped cream, of course!), download a new song from iTunes, even a new cup coaster from that swanky new shop opposite your office.
Go for a quickie
Spare yourself from lunch today and use the time to go and have a 30 minutes workout at the gym. No gym in your workplace? No worries. Put on your sneakers and run around the building thrice. You’ll feel better after all the negative energy have been expelled and feel refreshed after a shower.
Have a chat
Talk to the most positive jovial person in your office that you know. I used to work at a place where they have this person whose only job is to talk positive to you. You can tell her anything and everything, and expect her to find something positive about the situation to respond to you. Suddenly you felt the world isn’t as bad as you thought it was.
Room for growth
Today you made mistakes, today you learnt, tomorrow you will put the past away and apply what you learn yesterday.
Last but not least, love you
Don’t expect anyone to love you if you can’t love yourself. Self love is the key to boost your confidence level. If you love yourself, you will never say let down speech to yourself. If you love yourself, you won’t look in the mirror and see a failure reflection of you. If you love yourself, you will give yourself a break when you did something wrong. If you love yourself, you will strut out there and owe it!
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