After posting a few of the Covid-19 related articles, many of you are asking after my well-being. Thank you. We are safe, all 3 of us, my husband, my 3-year-old daughter and myself.
I felt that I should share little more on the situation based on my end so you can understand what is it like for an expat like me amid the covid-19 period.
Too Much Negativity
The news is full of it. So is my Facebook feed. Reports after reports, everyone is reporting on the stats of every country’s infection status or the shelves in the supermarkets are empty or which country is banning who from travelling from. It is depressing.
So when Malaysia started reporting on the political news of Mahathir resignation and Muhyiddin Yassin becoming Malaysia‘s 8th Prime Minister, it was so refreshing to read something unrelated to Covid-19.
Not that I follow up much on Malaysia politic scene, but it’s either that or obsessing on which countries are now top 10 infected countries, what are the number of new cases today.
On top of that, we are constantly besieged by friends and family forwarding news about the Covid-19. Some of them are useful but a lot of them are fake news and quite disturbing in fact. With the numbers not letting up, it is possible that the Movement Restriction Order may continue or even restrictions be stricter.
So for MiddleMe, I will try not to write about Covid-19 that much and limit any Covid-19 related article only once a week if any. There are just too many Covid-19 articles out there jamming my inbox and my social media feeds. I need more cute kitten videos!
Our Family Situation
Both my husband and I are constantly debating every day whether should we go back to our home country, Singapore. While living in Kuala Lumpur, travelling home will mean either a 5-hour drive or a 45 mins flight home.
Singapore has implemented 14 days stay home self-quarantine on all who returned from overseas, while Malaysia has just begun 14 days of movement restriction. So in reality, it makes little difference if we were to stay put in Kuala Lumpur or to go back to Singapore.
Do we want to risk our safety to be on a flight with others even it is just 45 mins? Even if we drive, we will be staying with our family in Singapore and this means lesser social distancing and more exposure since we will be staying with my parents-in-law and sis-in-law versus us three over in Kuala Lumpur.
The cementing factor comes from our furry kids, the 3 cats. We’ll never leave them behind and 14 days away will just be too much without us around. Mostly because I’ll miss them too much.
Everything and Everywhere Closed
During this Movement Restriction Order in Malaysia, there are many similarities to a lockdown. Mainly the things that impact us are those activities we took for granted. Once again, I am humbled by this experience.
This doesn’t affect us as much as those families with school-going kids.
Many moms are grabbing their hair in frustration in trying to cope with their children’s boredom and finding learning activities to occupy them. You can’t have them glue to the television or iPad for 12 hours!
My little one and I homeschooled so we are used to having lessons and activities at home. I have plenty of ready learning materials to occupy her for weeks.
But my little one still misses her Friday sessions at her Language Playschool as well as her friends at the playschool.
Swimming Pool Closed
The weather (30 to 34 degree Celsius) is perfect for that dip in the pool. Sadly, our community pool is closed to adopt social distancing and avoid gathering at the poolside.
So one of the best outlet to let off children’s energy is out. By the way, the playground is closed too.
Food Establishments Closed
We also missed dining out during the weekends as restaurants closed and only available for takeaway or delivery. We always like picking new places to try out new dishes.
Shopping Malls Closed
My little one has missed going to the malls. She enjoys her shopping trips and eating at the sushi bars.
She loves the buzzing activities, noise and people traffic in malls. She loves windows shopping at the ToysRUs even though she knows Mommy won’t buy her anything.
She loves reading at the bookstores because she knows if she asks nicely, Mommy may buy her a book!
You Cannot Be Outside
We missed our nature walks as a family. My daughter has been asking when she can ride on her scooter again.
My husband has to sacrifice jogging and going to the gym. The only exercise he has now is to chase my little one around the house as she desperately tries to avoid being caught to put down for naps.
Even when we do groceries, only one person from a household can be appointed to go out alone to the supermarket. This is irritating because I have the expertise manipulating the different food section quickly and efficiently including eyeballing for sale items and calculating in my head the number of diapers we need, my husband has the brute strength to carry everything I bought (or overbought) and my daughter has that irresistible cute face that gets freebies (I lost count how many free lollipops and balloons she gotten from supermarket cashiers and security guards.)
Together, we are a perfect dream team. This is one regular activity we missed doing as a family.
Positivity is the only way to go
So in this crisis, what are the shining lights?
We must remember to always look at the positive side and eventually we will bounce back stronger and more resilient. It is easy to slip into depression with so much unknown. Will we still have a job in the near future? What will happen when this is over? Are we safe? What are our governments doing?
Instead of dwelling on the unknowns, I have chosen to live for the moment. Sure, the daunting factors are always at the back of my mind but it doesn’t do me much good to hold on to things I can’t control except to be vigilant and take preventative measures.
We try to live our lives like before, just with a few exclusions. Home lessons still go on, we still have pancake on Sundays and we still gather around at nights for late-night movies.
What are the positives for me as an expat?
More family bonding time
Since my husband doesn’t need to travel anymore, he has more time to bond with us. He has taken part in helping me to homeschool my little one.
Without going out, we clear our living room so that he can kickball with my little one, working up a sweat within one hour!
My husband can see what I am doing on my usual days with my little one at home.
While he has an inkling that I don’t just nap all day at home, he now helped out the household chores and put himself in my shoes where I am indoor on most days without interacting with adults and dealing with tantrums.
Time to do what we always put off
Whether it is fixing that old leaky pipe in the house or organizing the entire wardrobe by colours, we have time to do what we always been putting off.
With extra hands around, I can take up online courses that I always wanted to do but don’t have the time. Books are being read and movies are being watched. We are clearing our back up to-do list with vigour.
Learning to be Frugal
Cutting down our groceries run from twice a week to only necessary runs, we try to be as frugal as possible to maximise what we have in the fridge.
We stopped online shopping and only buy what are daily necessities. With my little one, we devised games and activities with materials we have.
Whether with local Malaysians or with the expatriate groups, it is heartwarming to read and hear stories of how people come together to help one another.
I applaud those who offer to do groceries run for those elderly and disabled in their neighbourhood. We clapped along with others on our balconies and windows at a certain scheduled time to cheer for our frontline medical team. I have reached out to some of my fellow Singaporeans in Malaysia to share stories on how we are doing and encouragement.
It is time for everyone to hang on tight as we go on this long journey and hopefully, this pandemic will end soon so we can start picking up the pieces. So stay positive, stay safe and take care, everyone.
For more Covid-19 articles, here are some that I wrote:
Covid-19: Malaysia Movement Control Order Announcement – Biggest Impact will be Workers
Covid-19: Employees asked to Take Unpaid Leave by Companies
Covid-19 Outbreak: What are Companies doing right by their employees
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