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Hello!!
Cheers to the new week
So someone asked me which I’ll choose marriage or my career (Which I’m still building)
This question came as a joke from an old friend that said he wants to marry me and I said please I need to work on my career and he asked which I’ll choose, I told him my career in case you’re wondering
So this post is for all the men asking us to choose between our career and marriage and also for the ladies that have been asked this annoying /abnormal question.
Number 1. Why do I have to chose?
Why can’t I have my bomb ass career and still have a great marriage?
Will you ever ask a man if he’ll choose between his marriage and career? Then why ask me? If it’s because of child birth we all know that you will be excused from work when the time comes or is it because as a woman I’m the only one that’s supposed to sacrifice for our marriage?
He also said marriage will make me fulfilled, did I tell you that the career I want will not fuel my soul with love and fulfillment?
So let me tell you why you should never choose!
To the women choosing their marriage over career
– if your career is something you’re passionate about you will feel empty from time to time and even spiteful against your husband.
– When you see your fellow ladies getting promoted at work and inviting you to celebrate, you’ll get angry at yourself for not chasing your career and balancing both.
– My husband I want to make my hair, buy new clothes, buy pad – you will become dependent on your husband and if you we’re independent before you’ll feel like a burden and pinch yourself for your mistake.
To the women choosing career over marriage
– How will you feel if your man does the same? Baby come and eat me for dinner and he replies that he has some work to do and other bla.
– Will you be happy going home after work every day to meet an unhappy man? Or someone you can no longer recognize?
– The money that will not leave you, will it touch you every night and tell you you look good and remember the good old times with you?
Dear ladies
I tell you that you do not have to choose, women are pressurized to sacrifice so much in a marriage when everything is supposed to be a joint effort!
I stumbled on a question to the ladies saying ladies with degrees, why can’t you leave work for 5 years to raise your kids then go back?
Because your employer will wait for you? Where will you find another job? Oh my, forgive me, I forgot that when you tell your employer that you left to raise your child they will accept you back ASAP.
It takes 5 years to raise a child?? I mean after breast feeding and when the child is strong enough, why can’t the man of the house leave his job for 5 years to take care of his kids? What if the woman is earning more?
You did not study for nothing and you do not exist for marriage, you do not have to choose, find balance, it exists, it won’t be easy but what’s the thing with good things? Not easy to get.
Where do you stand on this topic? Are you with me or against? Contributions, comments and arguments are welcomed
Xo
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We dont have to choose..we only need to prioritize and make things work
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Yeah, I agree on that. It’s tough to juggle the time though.
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Ineed it is but as soon as you learn the trade .it would be just easy
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Well, I’m going to be on a learning curve next year! Haha!
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I am about to say that…ha..ha..ha..
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I’m gonna need all the advice you can give me, Michelle! *freaking out on waking up every 2 hours for feeding time* haha!
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Anytime kally…i had four and i made it !!! Was hands on then huh..
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4!!!! Wow! You’ve your hands full!
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No one should be asked to choose. As a young man I would gladly have given up work to raise my child. Now as an old man I look forward to seeing my grandchildren, spending time with them and listening to their conversations, happy in the knowledge that I can give them back when playtime ends.
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Thanks for sharing this insight, Dave. Time do pass by quickly and before we know it, we are missing their childhood.
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You’re very wise my friend xoxo
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We are both wise, dear Dave. Have an awesome weekend!! 🙂 TGIF!
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I’m off now until Tuesday my friend, hope you have a fantastic day and enjoy your weekend Kally.
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As a Man myself, I am really pissed off with that mentality of leaving the Woman to take care of the kids whereas the Man could do the same. Because of that I come up with an idea of settling down on family life once I can raise a family through a business rather than having myself and my wife to be employed the rest of our lives.
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That is a great plan to be self sustain your life instead of depending on the regular workforce. I strongly advocate that both parents have a duty to care for the wellbeing of their children regardless of sexes.
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Bonjour KALLY
J’ai vu ton passage sur mon blog
Je me permets de rentrer dans ton univers
Pour te dire merci
Merci de ta fidélité
Merci de tes commentaires
Merci du fond du coeur
Merci pour tout
je te souhaite une très bonne journée
Une excellente semaine à venir avec une petite chute de température
Reste bien au chaud
Prends bien soin de toi
Gros bisous Bernard
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Thank you, Bernard!
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It shouldn’t be so, but usually (of course there are exceptions) the man gets to keep his job because he earns more, and so it was decided that I would give up work when we had children. It’s also terribly difficult for both parents to have a career and spend enough quality time with a child. I tried to have the best of both worlds. I waited until my oldest child was 12 and the youngest 9, and then went back to work part-time. All my salary was given over to childminders during the school holidays, but when I decided to have children I wanted to raise them myself for their formative years. Unless you have obliging parents ( I didn’t) childcare is very expensive in the UK, but then if you have a high-powered career and earn enough to pay a nanny, that nanny will be largely bringing the children up with their own values. It’s a tightrope we walk when we decide to have children, and each woman must make their own decision whether they continue with a career and miss out on their children’s formative years, or take time out until the children are older and then return to the job market. It’s all based on a family’s disposable income and personal choice at the time.
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Thank you, Stevie, for sharing your opinions. I do agree with you that it is a personal choice. It takes a lot to make a fine balance and it is nearly impossible not to sacrifice something out of the equation. Even it means sacrificing your ‘me’ time, it is still a sacrifice. I haven’t decided my own options. I don’t want to give up on work because it is a part of me and yet, I want to be the best mother to my own child.
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Maybe the part-time option would suit? It worked for me.
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I probably will opt in for freelancing because I like having my time flexible.
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My husband and I have taken turns on everything: he worked full-time while I stayed at home, he worked full-time while I worked part-time, both of us worked full-time, I worked full-time while he stayed at home, and now I’m working full-time while he works part-time.
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What perfect partnership you and your husband have! Must be the envy and model example of many. 🙂
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Thank you for the feature dear, I really appreciate!!!
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You’re most welcome!!
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Like any normal relationship, it takes two to make it work. The same should be true for marriage.
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They did say it takes two to tango…
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Amen to that.
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It needs a social change and I can see its happening. I had written how can we still continue pursuing our career despite the social challenge we face. Here my point is you have to be successful to bring a change in society so focus on success.
https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/deam-bites-sakti-bagchi?trk=pulse_spock-articles
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Thanks for sharing your article with us!
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